Dutifulness Can Preemptively Destroy Your Life and Your Identity...
Hi, dear Steemians!
When you were just a child, the obligations of society and the deep and often painful matters of adult life could not compromise your secure boundaries of comfort and ease.
Eventually, as you grew older, your parents felt the need to teach you about living and the responsibilities that come with it. Before then, you knew only how to enjoy your moments and assume the role of the careless thinker.
But after that, you were forced to accept some hard truths; that life is not always going to be fun and games, that you needed to accomplish things for yourself, so that you could have a prosperous life and be untroubled by the necessities that society ordains for you.
And that was the moment whole generations were put under the illusory spell of obligation and their dreams flew away to a land unbeknownst to them.
You see, our family and close friends have always preached to us about how we should live our life.
About how we should finish our education in a field that may not even be to our liking, because it obviously has more career opportunities.
About how we should accept mandatory and depressive jobs in narrow and heartless offices where endless people work the machines to feed the ever-growing system of a relentless society.
This concept that we were raised with, from a certain point of our life, is known as dutifulness. Dutifulness can destroy your life if you do not understand it.
It is mature and courageous to take responsibility of your own life.
That should not be mistaken for dutifulness. Dutifulness is the idea that success and achievement can only come if you take away joy from your life and embrace pain.
Ever since you were small and started to learn about dutifulness, a fallacious and erroneous thought erupted in your mind and grew. You thought that joy and happiness were from the time you used to play with your toys.
Anything that did not resemble that sense of joy could be contributed to you being dutiful and responsible about your own life. That is why many of us cannot enjoy our jobs.
That is why we think to study, to learn, to understand, to work and etc. is just labor and no joy or consolation of any sorts could come out of it.
The danger of dutifulness lies in the fact that you inadvertently give up on experiencing maturity as you should, and think that every mandatory and obligatory deed in society should be done in a spiteful way.
More so, some people forsake their dreams for the sake of being responsible for their future. A career in arts or some other explosive and innovative idea is no stable way to pay the loans or cover the costs of living.
That is why dutifulness is, at its best, the death of your dreams. Do not mistake it with being responsible for your future.
Dutifulness is the idea that nothing good could ever come out of anything if you started enjoying your professional work.
Life is afflicted with pain, but that does not mean that every aspect of its professional side should be considered painful or erroneous. We could learn to love our jobs, or follow our dreams with fearlessness.
Follow, above all else, the thing that brings you joy, happiness, and fulfilment.
You can trust me when I say that the other aspects of it will fall in order on their own!
A BIG HUG!
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Good stuff as usual!
I agree, we should not put the Dutifulness above our dream.
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I read your post with interest, dutifulness, I think my life was almost all about it, until I decided to cut off what I have learned and learn something new, the way we group sometimes can be so oppressive, we are so used that job must be painful and sometimes also that love must be painful that we never find joy or we feel guilty if we found it.. In something that the society can add as a waste of time.. By the way I read i the end of your pist you talk about a community? You mean steemit or another one?
Hi @denamrkguy and being a baby boomer many memories came flooding back regarding duty. I had a sense of duty in caring for my parents in their last years. I took this seriously and do not regret my efforts and energies and now I have no regrets, only lovely memories.
We are always instilled, work in a company and meet a schedule, which does not allow you to do anything for you ... only for the company. I felt trapped in my last job, and I decided to leave, many people told me I was crazy, taht how I doing... if currently in my country reigns unemployment, but I had already made the decision, and honestly, I do not regret it. I work with steemit, I have time for my home, for my girls and for me, I am currently doing a bakery course that I have wanted to do for a long time, and I have a schedule in a company, I could never do the course ....
Life is not all about chocolates , cakes or sweets.
Its about our purpose in life. Pain doesn't necessarily mean that we're deprived of happiness or joy. Pain is also a purification for the growth of our virtues not vices.
Its not all about what we want in our lives, but its about our responsibilities and duties to serve for the common good.
We don't live alone just to serve our own selves and desires.
We are community of mankind living together and connected to serve each other.
If we have our personal dreams, let's think deeper, analyze, ponder and discern whether these dreams will serve for all or for our own personal interests, desires and pleasures.
You are right , everything will eventually fall in place.
We should also strive to do anything we choose to do with passion and respect as it will reflect on our work ethic and the impacts of future ventures.
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