Take control of your own life by placing less blame on others
Putting the blame on other people and the situation is an easy way to avoid taking responsibility and stop what happened.
Getting lost in this is the best way to mess up your life.
A lot of people use other people and/or situations to explain away their bad luck.
They don't need to do anything; whining and waiting are enough for them.
"People always say that situation is to blame." Things don't trust me. People who want to be successful in life have to get up and go find the things they want, or make them if they have to.
We need to find the cause.
It's hard to live with so much doubt. We need to stay in charge and believe that the problem will be fixed.
If the other person is at fault, then the solution is also at fault.
Once we know what caused the problem and what will happen as a result, finding someone to blame can help us feel like the problem has been solved.
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When we put the blame on other people, we lose control of our lives.
Take charge of your life by judging other people less.
Some people enjoy telling other people how bad they are.
When you say bad things about someone, though, that person is probably associating those bad things with them.
"Spontaneous transfer of character traits" is the term for this.
To be responsible for what happens, you have to be an adult.
If there are guilty people, they should take responsibility for their actions instead of taking all of it.
What can I do since it's all someone else's fault? Do the things I do not have any effects? Am I unable to?
It's possible to take responsibility for both mistakes and achievements when we know we can.
We need to stop blaming ourselves for problems and learn to be fair to ourselves.
Also, we need to tell the difference between being responsible and hurting ourselves.
It's easy to find someone else to blame when something goes wrong.
We need to fight this urge to find fault.
Before we can judge the situation, we have to be okay with not always knowing who is responsible.
We need to wait; looking for the bad guy won't help.
"It's easy to be embarrassed and angry about many things when you're young, but then you learn that being calm and collected is more useful."
Hideyoshi Natsume
Being realistic when you realise you made a mistake helps you grow.
People don't get better by just surviving and liking themselves.
Making mistakes and failing is not a sign of shame. We can only get better if you give us accurate cause feedback.
It's not by not making mistakes that we grow; it's by looking at causes and weaknesses to find answers.
Aim for Improvement Instead of Guilt
Some people feel guilty all the time. What's still there? Does this help with anything?
Stay away from guilt and instead focus on fixing problems and making things better until you do the right thing.