How to Gain Appreciation & Respect of People Around

A few not entirely obvious tips that will help you become an authority in the circle of relatives, friends and colleagues.

Show that your opinion can be changed. Often we are afraid to admit that we are capable of making mistakes, although to a certain extent this interferes with building harmonious relationships with others. Impudence and stubbornness build walls: it is more difficult for us to communicate with relatives during a gala dinner, with the opposite sex on a date, with colleagues at work.

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But most of us are too proud to say three simple words: "I was wrong." It seems to us that if we recognize this, then people will respect us less. But this is not the case. Be open to new ideas and make it clear that your opinion can be changed if it is wrong. People who are capable of this command respect .

Invest free time and money in your future Most people don't value their free time. They do little sports and self-development, almost never read books, do not spend time with friends and colleagues, but sit for hours in front of the TV or on social networks.

If you did your exercises today and read for only 15 minutes, but every day, you are already far ahead! The world's great people invest their time in themselves because every skill they gain doubles their chances of success. And successful, interesting people are always treated with respect.

If you want to achieve something and gain respect, ask yourself:

• How I spend free time?
• What activities are taking my energy and exhausting me?
• Why do I keep wasting my free time on this?

These questions are not always easy to answer, and the answers may change over time. But realize this now and you will have a better future.

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Don't pretend to be someone else. If you pretend that you know everything, when in fact you do not, then you look more stupid than if you admit that you do not know the answer. It's okay not to know something. Trying to be who you are not is not okay.

People will believe that you know everything and are capable of anything. But the deception is easily revealed, because colleagues or relatives will come to you for advice or help that you cannot give. So you will quickly lose respect, authority, reputation - all in one fell swoop.

Be yourself, be responsible only for what you are sure of. If you don't know the answer or can't find a solution, admit it and offer to find a way out together. This behavior, coupled with a willingness to come to the rescue, guarantees the respect of those around you .

Show that only you are responsible for your choices and actions. There are people who constantly complain about something and shift the responsibility for a bad result onto someone else. For example: not hired - an incompetent recruiter is to blame , fired - a manager, paying a small salary - a bad state ... And these claims never end.

Indeed, it is much easier to blame the conditional bad guy for everything if the case ends in failure, than to look at the situation from the outside and say: "What could I have done differently, better?"

As long as you shift responsibility for your actions and the end result to others, you will be weak. It will be difficult for you to break out of this vicious circle, change something in life and win the respect of people.

Do not gossip or slander others. Some people try to draw attention to their person by spreading juicy information, unverified information or rumors. Others slander their colleagues to get a promotion or promotion.

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But the problem is that as soon as you start to speak badly about someone, people immediately wonder if you are saying the same about them. And that always comes at a price - if you gossip and taunt others all the time, you have no chance of earning respect.

Leave gossip in the past and you will see how your life will change. Look for other ways to move up the career ladder. If you accidentally become aware that romantic feelings have flared up between colleagues or someone wants to quit , do not reveal a secret that does not belong to you .

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