For me, perfectly predetermining who will be a good wife is an impossible thing. Needs evolve, and so do human behaviours. There is also the issue of pretence and then possible back-slide in standards. Choosing a wife, whether she is viewed as likely to be good or not, remains a risk, just as relationships are a risk. But you have a very valid argument, @olanrewaju. If a woman is solution-oriented in her marriage, it is enough. Noone has the right to demand that her solutions must come from a fixed path of unnecessary exertion and labour.