Amen @lizelle. Mental pain is far worse than physical pain and is often and sadly self-inflicted, even if the initial pain was not. Why do we feel the need to relive events that caused us distress, even after they have been over for years? My mom was abused in the worst way as a child and still allows it to haunt her, and I told her it is like her uncle is still abusing her every day even though it has been decades and he's dead. She harbors so much blame in her heart, and it makes me sad, because it is internally focused on her inner child. She constantly beats herself up and feels unworthy of love and happiness.