oh, Lyndsay, dear..
(I 've stopped myself from writing tearful words of pity for you)
why? because you're STRONG, and you don't need any kind of pity.
Moreover! It's not a tragedy of the life. All are alive! All the rest can be changed if it's worth of it.
And I really appreciate you go on public and share this family news here.
and how wise you both are to go on to be just parents, caring and loving, despite of your inner problems.

P.S. My brother has just divorced after 22 years of living together. 2 kids. Common flat. It was VERY hard for him. I was afraid he had lost life sense at all. But time passed, and he is better now, thanks Heaven! And he does see the sense and the light of this life, and it's even brighter, because he has gone away from the bitch who poisoned his life for the last 10 years.
Moreover, she is a SO fucking bitch that she tries to prevent his communication with kids, and the sense of her life isn't kids but poisoning if his life, even now...

By the way, I know what you're talking about..
Before my marriage I had long relationship with a boy who had crazy passion to sports betting.
It cost us so much money, time and my nerves...
So many scandals, so much shouting and stresses, but no result.
It's a disease, a real one.
People are ok, adequate, but they start playing, they are obsessed. It's very hard to overcome.
So I know this problem, dear..

Ladyballs;))
even here you joke;))
Love you, SiSTAR!<3