It's almost impossible to talk about in our society.

For me, talking about it triggers the whole PTSD thing. I was almost put off by your first sentences. The sexual abuse I was subjected to by my mother has ruined three marriages and several relationships. The last one when my ex laughed at me for revealing my fears and told me that men are never abused. I just couldn't have sex with her after that. Dead stop. I've even had a shrink tell me I was just wrong, that it didn't happen. Makes it difficult.