"What do you think of the socialistic push towards banning offensive words or speech?"

It is fascism to say the least and criminal at its worst.

"Do you think society should seriously consider adopting offense and hurt-feelings as some kind of violation (or even a crime)?"

Absolutely not, as you stated in the post, it us unrealistic to expect a person to be aware of every person's "predilections, desires, wants or wishes".

"Do it seem like we are in a twilight zone?"

Yes, sometimes I think so, especially when I watch the talking heads on the news and watch the toxic dialogue on Facebook and Twitter.