RE: "Don't Offend or Hurt Anyone's Feelings": Is This Even Possible or Valid?
Telling the truth and maintaing others feelings don’t actually contadict each other. You still can tell someone about the falsity of their beliefs without hearting his feelings. It requires a slight change in your attitude, his perception and the collective mind of the society.
Regarding you (the one who tell the truth);
1- It is not what you say it is how you say it and are you just shock him with the truth or you give a good argument?
2- Keeping in mind that everyone is correct as far as what he knows. It is not about his illusion or ignorance, it is about the convection itself. Don’t personalize the depate.
3- People are more likely to listen carefully to you if they are listened to and feel understood.
4- every conviction can be approached from different angles, make sure you both share the same ground.
Good points to consider. There are still things that can be said nicely, but are a shock to people who can get offended anyways. The offense of hard truths can indeed be lessened when delivered differently. Thanks for the feedback.
Wonderful discussion. I do feel that people are becoming "too sensative". There is a point when a person needs to check themselves and take responsability for their feelings. People, statemetns, words and actions, can inlfuence me, however the response that I share is "all mine".
The power is in being "unaffected" by others, while still channelling their behaviors.
Ultimately, its your life, so if you don't like something - avoid it, leave it, or change the channel.
You have the power within to decide what happens around you - most of the time.