Courtship And Marriage
Courtship
Courtship is a time intending couples take their time to know each other,
it’s a time of robbing your visions together, a time of knowing your family members and relations, a time to study your differences, background, temperament, personal goals, and understanding one another.
At this point spouse should be open to each other, knowing the truth about your spouse can help make your future brighter than your past.
No deceit, no pretence, no lies.
I was opportune to be in a live program recently and a young man was sharing is problem, he said he dated his wife for two years and during their courtship there was no flaws and now he's married for just three months only to find out that the wife is a kleptomaniac. Someone who steals unnecessary things. When he asked the mother of the lady, she said it has been a reoccurring issue for a long time.
So i said to myself that this relationship is based on deceit and lies, the man did not carry out a background check before jumping into marriage. He just have to live with it. Do you remember the marriage vows? in sickness and in health.
I use to tell people, never engage in a distant relationship it is not healthy for marriage. Sometimes when we are over exited and we forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility.
Courtship takes a lot of commitment, so don’t even start it if you know you will not have the time to be committed to the relationship. One of the biggest mistakes that many of us make today is rushing into marriage without properly and thoroughly getting to know someone.
Love is important but compatibility is the best.
Marring the wrong person is a disaster.
Don't believe in the myth that when i marry him/her they will change my dear you can not change anybody. You can’t make a person what he or she is not.
Don’t marry someone that doesn't love you in return no matter the persuasion.
Don't go into marriage with the assumptions that after marriage I will change him or her. You can not change anybody. It is better to have a broken courtship than a broken marriage. Remember marriage is a life time investment, if you miss it now, you might never get it right again.
Conclusion
Let God guide you through it.
Remember, friendship is not by force but by choice. Refuse any attempt by anyone to “fix” you up or organize a wife for you.
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Thanks @raybabyshell for entering and sharing your post in my #popcontest ! You can never really know anyone ! we all have secrets and not everyone that steals or does other things wrong has a criminal background to even check , how many people are going to ask the mother in law if their future wife is a kleptomaniac or whatever !? lol! We just have to trust our own judgements and feelings and work through these issues no mater what , like they say " Through thick and thin!" if you truely love the one you married , you will always find a way to get help for each other or counselling before calling it quits !! Marriage takes a lot of work by both parties , its not easy ! but anything worth having usually is not ! like Steemit you need to be Dedicated , loyal ,patient and persistant , never give up !!
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The problem here is that love is blind.
It is really hard to see the flaws or even the red flags when what your programming in your mind is a perfect paradise.
You want the love so much, you delude yourself.
Further, our schools and churches do not teach anything about love.
They do not teach that men and women love, and see love differently.
In fact, they try to delude everyone into thinking egalitarian equality is real.
And something that women really need to be knowledgeable of: When you marry someone, your desire for that person drops. There is no longer the fight, the struggle to win the person, and so, your hind brain turns off some of the attraction chemicals.
Further, there is so many movies about, if you aren't happy, you should leave him. And almost no movies about actually finding your happiness. So, we are unprepared for actually making a relationship last.
Love is really blind. But let God guide us through everything. Thank you for stopping by.