11th Parenting –Observing a Child: Socio-emotional Development
Socio-emontional development in early childhood
Social and emotional development of a child takes place starting from her parents. Parenting becoming an important role to helping child developing social and emotional skills. Social competence not only includes the ability to cooperate with peers; it also involves the ability to express feelings, and share generously.
Parents tend to these difficulties to help their child:
- My child does not want to share his toys with his siblings and friends.
- My child always throw tantrum when he does not get the thing he wants.
- My child does not pay attention when I am talking to him.
So, what are the ideas from the expert to deal with these difficulties.
Socio-emotional development by Laura Berk
Berk (2012, p. 409) emphasized that milestones for 3-4 years children
(1) Describes self in terms of observable characteristics and typical emotions and attitudes (examples shown in picture above).
(2) Has several self-esteems, such as learning things in school, making friends, and getting along with parents.
(3) Emotional self-regulation improves.
(4) Experiences self-conscious emotions more often.
(5) Relief more on language to express empathy.
(6) Engages in associative and cooperative play with peers, in addition to parallel play
(7) Proactive aggression declines, while reactive aggression (verbal and relational) increases.
(8) Forms first friendships, based on pleasurable play and sharing of toys.
According to picture above, Grace showed different emotions with different people. She liked to stick to mummy at home and her nephew always is her best friend. Before 3 years, she always put on "happy" face when she liked to play with them. But she changed to a "sad" face when they rejected to share toys with her or she can't get her preferred object (i.e. buying ice-cream in shopping mall). By age 3, she realized that using verbal way of communication (i.e. "May I" and "Please, thank you") rather than just facial expression or body language can get the things she wants effectively. Sometimes, she was frustrated when she found out herself differently from her friend (for an example, a boy). When she was tired, she lied on the floor and fell into a deep sleep quickly.
Conclusion
From my discussions above, I can see that Berk’ research contributing to early child development. As a father and also a teacher, I will integrate his theory into Grace’ daily life. I will show examples in my next vlog.
To be continue…
References
Berk, L. E. (2013). Child Development, 9th Edition. Toronto: Pearson.
_________ (2014). Development through the Lifespan, 6th Edition. Toronto: Pearson.
Berk, L. E. & Meyers A. B. (2012). Infants, Children, and Adolescents, 7th Edition. Toronto: Pearson.
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I believe each child is very unique as you have mentioned, you can take those pointers as a reference since a girl and a boy is very different; moreover even between siblings their behaviour can be very different.
Especially middle child syndrome.
I agree it is not easy to love your kids all equally when you have more than one. I see my brother struggle at times to be as fair as possible.
That's part and parcel of life.
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Thanks for your feedback. Actually, this is uneasy for me who came from a traditional Chinese family to love a baby girl. Because my mum expects to have a baby boy. I love my baby girl to treat her as a gift from God.
Let me tell you the truth, my mom used to (and still kind of) spoil the boys a little more than the girls; but has come to acceptance that daughters tend to have more caring attitude when dealing with parents' golden age.
Maybe when your little baby girl grows up with a caring heart your mom will appreciate that more.
For boys it is just a legacy thing. Passing the surname from one generation to another.
Yes, thanks for your encouraging words.
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