RE: Musing Posts
People often say they want to be happy. But what exactly does happiness mean and where to find it? The desire to be happy often does not materialize because someone only expects happiness without ever knowing the meaning and the way to get it. Some people said if you want to be happy you have to go to college, have lots of money, marry a beautiful wife, have funny children, and other things.
First of all someone needs to define happiness according to himself. Some say happy is when accompanied by a loved one. The rest argue that they will be happy if they have abundant material. Then what if one day the loved one dies or property suddenly runs out, can't he enjoy happiness again? That is, if a measure of happiness is attached to property then one will never be happy because the material can change and disappear at any time. Moreover, human beings who are basically never satisfied with the amount of their wealth so that the devotion of the material will cause it to want again and again. Likewise, if we depend on happiness for others then later when he leaves, we will be destroyed and feel unable to enjoy happiness again.
Then where can I find happiness? The poor people think that pleasure lies in wealth. The sick think happiness can be obtained if it is healthy. People who don't go to school judge happiness as high education. Ordinary people think happiness equals fame. Singles assume happiness comes when you have a lover. There are those who suspect that they can be happily searched by shopping, karoke together, or eating chocolate. With shopping, maybe we can get happy for a moment, but after shopping, why does happiness suddenly disappear? There are still many assumptions about happiness that look so delicious that everyone tries to chase after it in search of happiness.
Someone who is looking for happiness will never find it because happiness is created not found. That is, happiness does not need to be sought or pursued. Happiness is not because of someone near us or about something we have. Happiness is a condition created in a person's heart and mind. This is why someone who is looking for happiness always goes home empty-handed because happiness is within himself.
Happiness does not need to be searched far because it can actually be found in our hearts. Happiness is not determined by others or the material we have but happiness is determined by the human being itself. The only problem is whether he wants to choose happiness or not ?! The level of happiness is directly proportional to a heart full of gratitude for being grateful for the sensation of amazing pleasure. On the contrary, being grateful and complaining only causes distress because of the burden of negative thoughts that squeeze.
Gratitude seems easy when conditions are fine. Then could it be possible for someone to be grateful and happy if the conditions are so apprehensive like facing a problem, lying sick, not passing an exam, or being left behind by a boyfriend? Isn't it natural that someone will complain and be unhappy when they are in trouble? Be grateful not only for positive conditions but also negative because someone who views life's problems as a burden will find it difficult to feel happiness. One can still be grateful as long as you can think that behind every problem there must be good things that can be learned and make it more mature.
Be thankful even though you are sick because weak lying conditions make us more able to appreciate health. Instead of being annoyed to be met with the most annoying person in the world it's better to be grateful because at least he teaches us about the characters that must be avoided. Grateful for causing enthusiasm and perseverance in solving problems so that it is more likely to get promotion. Rather than condemning a salary that is still too small it is better to be grateful because it can lead to sincerity and totality in the work as a result of being able to get greater trust and income compensation.
Complaining does not solve the problem, only brings more unwanted situations. While grateful can bring more dreamed conditions. Over time we will get used to being grateful in every situation. Our happiness is stable and does not go up and down depending on the good and bad conditions. In fact our lives are happy but no gratitude makes us miserable. Stay grateful in every situation then we will be happy. Happiness is not everything, but everything does not mean without happiness in the heart.
Be thankful for what is because Life is a gift and keep run this life and do best.