You focus a lot on him. I was once married to an ambitious woman and I was someone with no 'drive'. We divorced but I have felt free from the pressure of being a home provider ever since and love every minute of my life. Maybe he was an unhappy person and lied because you were wrong for each other. Now you are both free, maybe he is happy again, or will be when it all blows over and are able to move on. If you don't have high expectations of someone you won't be disappointed!