How the Ego avoids Self-Love
I am writing a lot about Love, because it’s the highest frequency in the universe and throughout all dimensions.
All Love starts and ends with Self-Love, because even if you remember yourself as being the whole universe, throughout all dimensions, time and space, Love ist the Love for Self as all of existence.
Most still believe, that they are only a human being in a physical body and that’s why Self-Love starts right there.
Later, when you remember, that you are all of humanity, Self-Love is the Love for humanity as yourself and on and on through all layers of your true cosmic being.
All Love is Self-Love in the end. As a separated human being, we can’t love another, doesn’t matter how much we believe in the misunderstood teaching of „Love another as thyself“. The reason for this is, because the Ego can’t love. Love means the end of separation and therefore, as long as there is separation (Ego), there is no Love.
That’s why we start with Self-Love on the level we are currently are at.
Since Love means the end of separation and the Ego is the process of separation, Love is its ultimate threat.
The many ways our Ego avoids Self-Love
The Ego will do everything to avoid Love, since they are opposing forces.
One stands for separation and the other for oneness.
So the Ego comes up with endless ways to avoid Love.
When a human being is deeply asleep in the Ego dream, there are countless ways to keep the dream going - from relationships over work to power plays, money, sex, psychology, religion and on and on. Books over books can and are written about these topics, and how to „transform“ an Ego into a better Ego.
This article is for people who are at least already aware, that they are more than the physical dream and the above ways of Ego-Enhancement have lead them nowhere. In this phase the Ego is already loosened and will head over to Spirituality.
Spirituality is also just a phase and I want to show you some traps, how even spirituality is used to avoid Self-Love. This is the phase of the „spiritual Ego“….
The Spiritual Ego and how it tries to survive
Recently I had a strong feeling of sadness appearing in my consciousness. This happens from time to time, and even being perfectly clear, that this was not „my“ sadness, but the sadness of the world, I sat down to do a meditation with it.
After that meditation, the sadness was still there in all its glory.
So I did some lightwork, beamed myself to other planets, invoked every Archangel and Seraphim in all existence, raised my frequency to a thousand suns and when I returned, the sadness of the world was still there waiting and smiling at me…
Damn! How could it possible survive all of these spiritual Karate moves?
I suddenly realized, what I was trying to do the whole time. Obviously I was trying to make it go away and defeat it with spiritual techniques.
Classic spiritual Ego!
There is no Love in all that. There is still separation between me and the sadness. The ego is trying to survive through spiritual techniques.
We do this all the time - many people on spiritual paths do this their whole lives without recognizing it.
It doesn’t matter, if you are using Tarot cards, Astrology, Reiki, Yoga, Tantra or whatever modality - as long as there is the slightest motivation of making things go away, you are caught in the spiritual ego.
Yes, maybe even after seeing this, you still can’t love the sadness appearing, but you can always love the one, who is not able to love the sadness - that’s practical self-love!
So whatever you experience as your Self at the moment, start with the Love right there.
Always remember: You don’t have to like in order to love!
Don’t try to like the sadness appearing, just love yourself for not being able to like. Say this out loud to yourself: „I know that you don’t like this sadness. Yes, it freaking hurts. I love you.“
You always deserve more Love not less. Especially when there is something like sadness appearing, you deserve more Love.
It’s like when a crying child comes to you and you hug and love it.
You also don’t put it down after one „I love you“ because it’s still crying and walk away. So don’t do this with yourself either.
Most of our spiritual techniques are ways of the Ego to avoid real Self-Love.
At least, they are used this way and maybe are even created out of the transparent belief to do so.
Just be aware the next time you try to meditate something away, and instead put your hands on your heart, for it is then time for another round of soothing Self-Love. You deserve it!
I also have been focused very much lately on two things: 1) self-love and 2) the allowing of the blessings trying to reach us that can only happen when there is self-love.
That's pretty much it. I feel like everything else is Spirit's job, not mine. The more I do these two things, the more I'm led to all the details.
Btw, thanks for putting me on to Matt's radio show recording on empaths feeling and healing the world's pain. I really enjoyed it and passed it along to others who greatly benefited too.
Thank you for spreading the Love! 🙏
I'm so happy, that Matt is doing these shows weekly now - it's such a blessing - and I will continue to listen to his show from yesterday, once I finished answering the comments here.
Yes, since Matt came into my life some years ago, I have told many people about his teachings and it's wonderful to see, how many lifes I have touched with this. This and embodying his teachings for the benefit of all is indeed a huge blessing. By the way: Yesterdays show is also about receiving the blessings - so it goes hand in hand with your focus! Much Love and thank you for your kind words! 🙏❤️
When I try to listen to the one from yesterday, instead I get a Nancy Levin show playing. No matter how many times I choose his, the pause and play button is affecting her recording not his. This is happening in a couple different browsers. But you've been able to play his from yesterday?
Yeah, I also had similar problems yesterday, but could play the audio when going to https://www.hayhouseradio.com/#!/episode/a-love-beyond-illusion and clicking the "Listen Now" button. I hope it will work for you too!
I have to smile. I have been through a lot lately, and when I read this post, I know what you say is right. All of my life has really been about just that: self-love. And I agree, there is only that. It all comes down to self-love because we are all one. The worst thing you can do is to cast a shadow upon yourself, meaning not loving, not letting yourself shine. But how easy is it in the long run?
I started out quite spiritually, actually. I was for a time only there, a lot in the spiritual ego, but as well with times when I felt completely at one with all. And that felt wonderful. Right now I am in a period of my life where I don't know who I am anymore, I constantly hinder myself from meditating, connecting to myself. It is frustrating to say it the least, most because my ego screams that I don't have time to give away the little spare time I've got to meditation, that I am a victim, etc.
That being said, I really appreciate this post. It feels wonderful to be reminded of this again. Of that time ten years ago. In many ways, I want to go back, even though my ego is strong, too.
The paradox: maybe the right thing to do is accepting my ego and loving it as it is. Telling it that it's okay that it only follows its own programming, that it doesn't want to be enlightened because it thinks it is quite boring.
But thank you for this post. Really appreciated.
WOW! What an awesome comment @vuds! Thank you! 🙏
If your ego thinks, that enlightenment is "boring", then you have a very friendly one. Mine always thought, that it would mean death. 😀
In a way, it was right - it's an ending. The end of wanting to be somewhere different than you are.
I was only 21 years old, when the ego dropped away and with it the whole world. Both "came back", because there was lots of integration to be done.
For years and years I wished to go back to this state and tried every method out there to do so. I failed. The reason simply is, because there is no back.
Everything is moving forward - all the time - and beyond time too...
Your ego is also not strong. If it were strong, you would not see it in action - you would keep dreaming. You are already aware of your ego. So that's that..
Also you have every time in the whole existence. How do I know that?
Well, there is nowhere to go and nothing to reach. So how could there be "not enough time" and especially "for what?".
Your ego is simply your hurt inner child. It is only here to be loved. Nothing else to do. If a child comes to you crying, you don't tell it, that it's not enlightened enough to be loved. You just love it.
Here is some minty fresh insight:
Your ego can't get enlightened. Your true self already is.
So what is there to do?
You are a wonderful being of Light and you deserve every Love possible.
The proof for that is, that you are breathing.
This is by the way the first and only sign, that someone or something deserves Love. If it's breathing, it's here to be loved.
So the next time, you blame yourself for not doing enough meditation, you just look if you are breathing and give yourself some freaking "I love you's" for that!
Much Love and thank you for taking your time to read this article! 🙏❤️
Wow back!!! What a wonderful reply! Thank you!! I need to answer right away, and wait for tomorrow to charge up my steem for a vote ❤️
So many wonderful, wise thoughts. I take it in the order you wrote it.
About my ego, hahaha, well, it IS afraid of ending as well. It knows where I belong, and it doesn't like that. So yes, it means death, and sometimes "I" am terrified of it. Especially when facing it. But day to day it tells me that enlightenment is boring. If I do even more than that - the death-thoughts come in, like: "what's the point of being here if you are enlightened?" and "use your time to enjoy yourself, not suffer in boredom...!
Your experience seemed quite wonderful, although I can only imagine the longing back there again. I feel a great longing for somewhere I know isn't here sometimes when I create. When I meditate I get these profound feelings of meaning, of deep deep longing. And then I just want to go, you know? Back to where I came from and that is quite painful. I have never tried to harm myself like that but the longing is horrible sometimes so, in a way, I am not afraid of death.
My ego is only doing its job. It is needed for me to be alive here on this planet, and I try to be grateful for that. If I tell it that it is weak, it will start with the victim-roles again and it's better to just boost it a little and tell it that it's strong ;)
I agree with the all the time in existence. I know that I do, but the individual Victoria - like I am today - lives only once, and that is kind of sad. Because I really like myself haha.
Totally agree with how to handle that ego. Love all the way. The only way.
I absolutely agree with you about being a being of Light and having the right to Love.
Not only that, but freedom, and safety as well. Those are our birthrights and I feel in sorrow for humanity not having that yet. Because all deserves freedom and safety. It is so important!
Thank you for the tip about meditation. You are right. After all, what is meditation, really? It could be used for so many things, including ego-boosting. Just being is what the Old Masters said all the time.
Do we ever listen?
Thank you for making this wonderful article, reminding me of this. Thank you for your heartfelt answer.
Have a wonderful day! ❤️
To your lovely ego:
"You are doing a wonderful job in protecting and taking care of Victoria! Thank you! Here is, what you need to know: Enlightenment is not the end of the journey. It's the beginning of a whole new one. In letting Victoria be the Light of her true being, she will serve humanity on a whole new level, and she will be taken care of and supported by the whole universe. Now, this doesn't mean that you will then be unemployed! You will just get a new job and you will be promoted into the role of remembering her to stay as the Light of her true being. This is a very important job! She has to be reminded to bring forth the Light for the benefit of all and from now on, she will take care of you as the spiritual guide, she has come to be for you. You can relax and get all the comfort and support you always deserved to get. Thank you, dear Ego. I love you!"
You may say this out loud daily and in a loving tone. These are the words, your ego now wants to hear.
Your longing is beautiful, my dear, and you don't need to end your life to fulfill it. In fact, you are already "there" and only need to remember yourself in that. This is one of the new jobs of your ego and so you can from now on walk together in a holy relationship. ❤️
The wonderful and individual Victory will not be forgotten - not after enlightenment and not after death. Even when you go to sleep and become One again for several hours, the moment you awake - out of a miracle of cosmic proportions - Victoria is remembered. She's there in the energy, saved in the cosmic memory banks for eternity. You don't need to remember this unique energy structure, since all your work gets saved in the cosmic cloud storage automatically! (This service is brought to you by Cloudbox. Your heavenly cloud storage service. Lifetime memberships are available at an Angel near you. This message may contain product placements...)
Thank you, lovely Victoria and as always I love you! 🙏❤️
I love this reply, every inch of it. Thank you so much. I love the affirmation. It is so absolutely awesome. Thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart. From the bottom of my heart: I love you, too! 🙏❤️
Aww, thank you so much! It's my absolute honor and pleasure to support you on your journey! 🙏
I had been going through some rough time with nightmares and low vibe and it's hard for me to get rid of it. I don't know if its the same as you had gone through, but I think you may know how it feels. What you said is right. We are just like a kid crying and we just need a hug and love. But this time, we only can get it from ourselves. The one can heal our heart is ourselves. I am happy to read this when I needed it. Thank you Thank you Thank you :)
Yes, you are telling the story of the world. There is lots of old low vibe energies healing out of the collective field and you are doing a great job!
Thank you for all the work you are doing on the behalf of all! Blessings! 🙏❤️
There is a thin line between confidence and overconfidence, same way there is a thin line between self love and ego. Once you tip Over the edge to ego side, I find it’s very hard to come back because it’s chains of doubt will try to bring you back. Self love on the other hand does the same thing as well.
I already wrote some articles about narcissists vs empaths and how these personality structures relate to Love.
The thing is, that most of my readers and people who get in touch are energetically sensitive souls aka empaths. They do by nature always think about others first.
It's their natural state to take on the worry of the world and they are the insecure side of god consciousness.
The fact, that you worry to go over the edge shows very clearly, that you are also in this category. A real narcissist would never be afraid for this to happen, because he would not think in this categories in the first place. This thought would not come to his mind.
I would say, in cases like yours, that you can dare to go all in on self-love and you don't need to worry about ever going into a place of overconfidence.
This is what narcissists should do... So love yourself as hard as possible - the world will thank you for that! ❤️🙏
Dude thank you for that, really appreciate that insight and yes it’s very troublesome when you’re putting the weight of world on your shoulder 😅
Very nice thoughts about every Love ultimately being caused by Self-Love.
The right person to marry is yourself because that who you're truly gonna stay with till death do you apart. Loving yourself the way you are right now is the only way to become what you want to be.
I also think that your thoughts apply to Altruism, too. Every Altruistic act has a source in Self-love. When we do "altruistic" deeds, we feel good. Thus, we do it to help ourselves feel better.
Indeed. The thing is, when you love yourself, you are filling up your bucket with Love and when it is overflowing, it will go out to others and the world automatically.
This way, you don't have to "do" altruism anymore, but you are altruistic by nature.
Thank you @lifenbeauty! 🙏
@atmosblack So true, Ego is quite cunning, and it can disguise itself in so many ways. Spiritual Ego being the most vicious, which often goes undetected. I have caught myself several times trying to take credit for the good that has happened in a particular instance. And through grace, thankfully, I can see that it is another trick of the Ego.
I must say though, the practice of mindfulness has been helping me avoid these traps, and in stead of identifying with the mind or the body, I just observe what the mind is doing or the body is doing, the thoughts, and the associated feelings, and in those moments, when I can remain aware that I am not what I am thinking or feeling, it is like freeing a bird from a cage. It is such a liberating experience. Cheers!
Yes, I guess mindfulness is a great way to become aware that you are more than your thoughts and feelings. It's not an end all be all though.
There comes a time, when you even go beyond the witnessing state - but that would mean, that you would have to change your username here, which is not possible... I guess, then you have a to make a new account and start the journey anew 😉
I pray that the time comes to consider changing my username :D Cheers!
I feel like this is such a big point. People feel like in order to love they need to be happy about everything and enjoy everything. There are constantly people doing things that I really don't like, things I used to do too even, but there is no reason we shouldn't love those people even if they are acting in a egoic way. I just tell myself that everyone, including me, has their own journey.
I mean I was lucky enough to stumble into spiritual "seeking," I did nothing that I can think of to deserve such wonderful changes in my life that have made me more aware, open, and loving.
I don’t consider myself a spiritual or meditative person, but I loved that you wrote about the Self Love. It’s an important theme I’m exploring in my creative writing project, and I deeply believe Love begins and ends with Self Love. I’d never considered the role of the ego. It’s given me more avenues to explore. I look forward to you writing more on Love. Thank you so much for sharing.
You are very welcome and you don't need to be spiritual for Self-Love indeed!
Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment! Blessings! ❤️
"I know that you don’t like this sadness. Yes, it freaking hurts. I love you". I feel inspired! Love is a beautiful emotion, ego can also feel beautiful to humans at a certain point in time because of its intoxicating reaction with the soul.
Reading through your postyou seem like a philospher at a point, then an astrologer, then a spiritualist.....or let me say you are dynamic in nature which is very lovely,keep it up!
haha Yes, I can be all of those - depends on the viewpoint!
Thank you! Blessings! 🙏😇
Spiritual karate is a great way to describe the spiritual ego - many times we chase the next "belt" and forget that loving ourselves was the reason we started thus journey in the first place.
Thank you for this valuble lesson