Crazy to think but yes I've literally done the same thing and reconciled in a similar situation. I don't think that it would be the same in a situation where it was a complete stranger and not someone I hadn't had consensual sex with before. I don't think that what people think they did or not is relevant but I do think that societal norms play a big part, not in excusing, but in the ability to forgive. I did this for me, not for him.