I get the idea but I do believe the main problem in this is: the way we are raised (also by society) and religion. Both want us to be humble, being satisfied with what we have, we are selfish (esp women are!) If we want something for ourselves. Nobody likes you if you turn out to have a strong will or set goals since if this is the case you point others on the fact they do not not have this "strong will" in it. They are without dreams. Also there are many moments in ones life you have to let go because of someone else and at a certain point you might figure out it is not important any longer since we all end up as a nobody, forgotten. Even the king? President and pope, even Soros and Mark Zuckerberg