Its Judgement Day!!! Jerry Banfield
Some people aggravate the living hell out of me. I take one look at what they are wearing, what they are saying, what they are doing and I know everything about them. Are you like me? Can you relate?
Then I remember to use the Mel Robbins 5-second rule. 5-4-3-2-1 Focus. Now I can see more clearly. It's never really about anyone else, its always always about me. You see, I have this voice inside my head. I call him Bob. I call him Bob because I read in a book somewhere and the author named the voice in his head Bob. If anyone read that book, please let me know what it is, in order to give the author credit. Anyway, the voice,Bob is a big fat liar.
I have been reading steemit posts by @jerrybanfield. Bob hates everything about this guy. I would tell you some of the things he says but, it not really nice and it a little R rated. The truth is that Jerry has seemed to accomplish many things that I wish I could have already accomplished. I see him all over social media and he puts out really good content. Man I wish I could be like that. The thing about this guy Jerry , is that he is authentic. I can tell. He is real comfortable with himself. He seems to really know what he is doing with his life. You see, I dont want to be Jerry, I would like to be like him. And thats why Bob hates him. Me? I dont know Jerry but I love him.
I have had this experience with other people in my life. My perceived image of how successful they are in all areas of their life makes me feel "less than", somehow unworthy and not good enough. My unconscious reaction is to let Bob make all the decisions for me. So I Judge. So today I don't listen to Bob anymore. He is always there. He always has something stupid to say.
When I stand in judgement of other people it never has anything to do with them. I always step back and ask myself " What has this got to do with me?" . Sometimes I can figure it out right away but sometimes it can take me months. ie. I used to have a problem with handicaped people. They made me feel really akward and I would just avoid contact with them. It took me 6 months to realize that they reminded me of my own weakness. The ironic fact is that when Istarting to talk with handcaped people I realized that they we not weak at all. They didnt see themselves as weak either. Then I realize that I am not weak, I am just fearful of being weak.
I would love to tell you that I have conquered my shortcoming with this awarnes but that would be a Lie. I still judge , but only for a few seconds and then I can snap back to reality. I welcome it, It gives me a chance to know myself better. The other thing I learned is that the harder we Judge, Sentance, and punish others. The Harder we Judge,Sentance and punish ourselves
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You wrapped it up beautifully...'harder we Judge, Sentance, and punish others. The Harder we Judge,Sentance and punish ourselves'
Great post....analysis of Bob and a great guy @jerrybanfield
Keep steeming...
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Already Did. Great stuff, will be following
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Jerry is always Jerry...anyone who hates on @jerrybanfield for finding peace and success has other issues they need to address prior to passing judgement.
I love Jerry. I think hes amazing. I hope you actually read my post. Then you would undersatnd
I definitely read the post and my comment was in full agreement with you. I'm referencing the "other" just as you referenced your inner "Bob"
Ahhh. I understand. You have depth, a very good quality
Handicapped are not indeed weak. To live such a life takes strength and courage. I have met so many not only living but enjoying their life. They have turned their "shortcomings" and turned them into something positive. They can't control the cards they have been dealt in life, but they can sure decide what to do with them. :)
I think we all have a Bob in us, and we do tend to judge sometimes. But, like you say we only punish ourselves. Same like you I have done it before, but now instead I try to learn about those individuals and what made them successful. Maybe one day learning from them instead of judging will all lead us to the success we want to see in our lives.
Interesting read my friend. We should all ignore the judging Bob. :)
Down with Bob!!!
hahaha down with Bob indeed. :)
So are you judging bob? Or you forgiving those ramblings? You and bob should make a date and you should give him the undivided attention he so craves, get to know bob better :D
HA! I know Bob really well. He has never once gave me any good advice. I accept Bob. He comes with me evrerywhere I go. He has to seat in the back seat and he dosent get a vote
Beautifully said Sustain, I find my self judging and then I realize how much I suffer from that practice. Working on myself has been my journey and I am culpable for the good and the bad that I have attracted into my life. Sometimes it just gets so tiring to listen to Bob! I like the analogy of this judging person who seems to have an opinion about everything! Time for Bob to go on a holiday or duct tape his/her mouth shut until the narrative is positive! lol
Bob is always Bob. The other voice , deep down inside , is the one I try to listen to most.
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Agree totally here too. As a matter of fact, I finished writing an article about it today, but not yet published, because speaking of all this is very new to me.. So I am still a bit hesitant ahah. But I probably will post it.
The title would be something like "Judging limits awareness".
Judging is mental. You lose all the "information", "the whole picture" when you judge, it is like you don't want to see the whole thing.
And as you, I still judge of course :)
Post it. I would love to see it