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RE: I Talked to a Feminist a couple of days ago...
I do feel young men especially are in a very difficult place, society has not caught up to the fact that women can earn as much as men, and the law assumes the man works and the woman is a homemaker; the law also assumes children should go to the mother if there is any divorce: Men basically lose everything.
I also think feminism has made it a requirement for men to be sensitive and caring, while larger society still expects men to be hard-as-nails unfeeling robots.
I'm not blaming feminists or feminism, but there needs to be more recognition that we are in transition.
I wrote a post on that a few weeks ago. How men need to adapt to the changing ideals of women. To be a successful man today, one needs to be a balance between sensitive and caring, but also tough when the situation arises. It's not a bad thing really, because it's a nice balance.
I think for young men its confusing, what is the male role model now? What rights of passage do they follow to assume the mantle of a man?
You're right. It's super confusing. At the beginning a man must show no vulnerability. Vulnerability is mocked at school, and kids are bullied into conformity. Then when we leave school and look for work and a mate, it turns out women value vulnerability and we have to spend years undoing what the popular kids smashed us into submission with. It's messed up!