Dont get me wrong . Like you said extreme realism never going to work all the time and it's a waste of time.. and it's going to add negative value to our life rather then being positive don't have to be brutally realistic, wining or lose , success or failure, just give it a try even you know you can't do that it's a learning process it will take you to the point that where you want to go "one day".
Take chances, make mistakes. That's how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.thanks