The art of bullshitting yourself.
We're very good at lying ourself: it's called Bullshitting.
I've been writing in the past that bullshitting can be the end of you if you are not careful, cause lack of self-awareness is akin to a phoned in life (yeah, I'm with Socrates on this one!). But I think that's a skill that can come in handy too. I've first heard of this concept from a buddy that was incredibly good at getting what he wanted out of life.
Just because there's a negative association to the word doesn't mean is ALL BAD. The reality is that in this world where you are being compared to everyone, every time you need a bit of bullshit bubble around yourself or else you might just crack. I feel this all the time. No matter what I think about myself, no matter what I do, outside my bubble I am just another one. There are always people who do it better, have it better, live better and they are so often close.
I always remember this quote when I'm feeling down about all this:
Maybe it used to be that movie stars or royalties had the kind of life you might envy but your neighbors and friends and - that's annoying but - acquaintances had a life that was OK. Sure, some did better but like, it's OK. Right now, even that guy you met once and follow on some social media might do some shit that will get you thinking that you are just not doing enough. And to all this I want to say: FUCK THAT.
This is all inevitable today but we have shields against all this insanity.
We can chose to say that "no" we are not below someone just because we don't have those clothes. That we do not smell like THAT, that we are not that handsome.
We can chose to like ourselves despite the fact that we may be wicked and stupid and at times just mean...while everyone around us seems to be oh, so generous and good.
I think it's a really beautiful concept to bullshit for wellness. Think about it:
You KNOW you are not THE best yet..
You THINK you are THE best.
Entertaining these two notions in the same time is what bullshit yourself is all about.
You go to a job interview and you must know that you have this. Sure, that guy has a CV that is fatter than yours but you must believe that you got this or else, why go at all?
You approach that beautiful brunette in the bar and you know, she'll like you cause you're funny and handsome and smell like a star. But you also kind of know you are not THE anything and in the end, you're maybe just an OK guy.
I'm sure there are feminine examples because for women is even harder and the constant comparations are punishing and pressures are mind-blowing for a guy.
Bullshit yourself and thrive.
Extreme realism is good when you grow. You want to have a certain humility about yourself or else you stop pushing. But when it's time to do something, there's no reason to self-doubt. Creating this shield that can act at once, is a skill.
I think it's called Confidence.
I think this is so important if you want to achieve anything in life. Sometimes i've been enough prepared for a task, but beacuse of lack of confidence i just failed and someone who whas less prepared, but had a lot of confidence got a better result than me. Everyone should work in their "bullshitting".
hear hear!!
We can chose to say that "no" we are not below someone just because we don't have those clothes. - this is not bullshit really, unless you are suggesting having less money makes you bellow others.
Thinking you are the best is bullshit though. No one is the best. Who is the best writer? the best poker player? the best athlete? no such thing. You should aim for good enough for your purposes.
Anyway, life ain't nothin but bitches and money, and all that
"Yeah, pussy is cool, but have you ever noticed all matter is merely energy condensed to a slow vibration, that we are all one consciousness experiencing itself subjectively, there is no such thing as death, life is only a dream, and we are the imagination of ourselves?"
Dont get me wrong . Like you said extreme realism never going to work all the time and it's a waste of time.. and it's going to add negative value to our life rather then being positive don't have to be brutally realistic, wining or lose , success or failure, just give it a try even you know you can't do that it's a learning process it will take you to the point that where you want to go "one day".
Take chances, make mistakes. That's how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.thanks
Its true.
Fake it until u make it.
In my line of work I run into bs experts on a daily basis, and I must admit, I have partaken in the bs more than a few times.
Having said this, there is also something to be said about “fake it till you make it”....that is as long as you are not lying in doing so.
Wow i didn't know i was a great artist. because i master the art of bullshitting myself. :D people are different, you don't really need to compare yourself to others, that will only make things worst because you will think that you are actually bullshit. learn to Love yourself and believe in yourself. we are all special in our own little ways. :)
May be just goofing around masquerading their chauvinism. : )
Excellent sometimes it is better to be ourselves and live like that, than to be a super star and have all those luxuries, for example many times we have something that they time for a certain thing, although sometimes without being someone famous you can ener all those luxuries greetings good post
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You make me laugh with the image, i like this, very true sometimes 😅👍
I love this post and it is exactly what I’m dealing with right now. Good advice in a crucial time.. Thanks.
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That's what I call a nice article! Confidence isn't easy to develop, for some people it's more harder...Confidence is really important to achieve our goals! Thank you for this nice post @razvanelulmarin.