Oh @paulag, I don't know what to say, but thank you...and you're welcome :) I love to hear that our story has affected you so profoundly; it seems to bring some sense to something that often makes no sense at all.

Your friend's story is a tragic one, but from the ashes, he truly rises like a phoenix, teaching his son love, compassion and forgiveness. I admire him greatly.

For you, little miss black and white, this post is a mixture of all kinds of shades of gray, but mostly I see love. I of course cried while I read this to Brian, but together we smiled too. Thank you again, from both of us.

Skip the data tonight, and give that sweet hubby and kids of yours a big hug and kiss, and tell them that I think they're all pretty lucky to have you in their lives. xxx