Honestly I think it is different, it does change things. The day I got married was the likely the best day of my life, if not top 3! It was amazing to have a big party with everyone you knew and loved all there to celebrate and be together. I am in the process of getting divorced atm but I still loved my wedding day.
I didn't really want to get married the first time but he really wanted to so I did it for him. Now I realize that I needed to do it for me not for him. The ending was inevitable really.
How ever the point of my comment on this is to say that having a wife or a husband is a big deal, its saying to the world but more importantly each other I choose you and weather you are religious or not (I am most definitely not) it is a commitment to one another that you hold above anything else.

I find it quite ironic that I completely understand and value marriage more now that I have actually been thought it. When I attend a wedding and hear the vows I now feel the seriousness and the commitment in the words, where at the time it did not have that weight.

Next time... I will choose differently and I will only marry someone if I am over the moon excited to do so. Otherwise I already know the outcome.
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