It sounds like you’re caught up in your thinking. Personally, I’ve found that when it comes to figuring out what I should do or what I want to do, thinking doesn’t suffice. Trying to logically figure something out, or list pros and cons, or step myself through a reasoning process, simply gets me feeling pretty entangled in the dilemma with no way out.

About five years ago a friend told me about “monkey mind” — the idea that our minds just go-go-go and never stop. This helped me put thinking in perspective. I could let the little monkeys in my brain do their thing, while not taking them so seriously. I think it’s worth developing other ways of considering important decisions. Some things I have found helpful?