When Someone Is Not Who You Think They Are
It is quite natural to feel close and connected to your soul mate. But, after a period of time, especially after the honeymoon period ends, it is crunch time, when you need to know whether you both are right for each other or not. There are certain signs that will notify you that your soul mate is not who you think they are.
Aren’t you your true self in front of your partner?
When you are in a relationship, and you feel that you have hide some of your real self from the other person, he/she is not the one for you. You have to be comfortable with your partner, the way you are beautiful, weird, funny, goofy and so on. If your partner demands you to change yourself or indirectly make you feel that you don’t fit in his/her world, the whole relationship is a red flag.
You both disagree on major aspects of life
In case, you and your partner disagree on the main topics like financial handling, physical intimacy, kids, religion, or any other aspects, things might not work out the way you have planned. Whenever there are topics on which you both have different opinions and thoughts, it is quite a challenging task to avoid debates, that might get ugly and result in quarrels and verbal fights. When you two are not clicking on the majority of the aspects of life, he/she is not the one who you think is.
Is your partner available emotionally when you want the most?
Whether it is your best or the worst of time, you will definitely want your partner to be around you. Someone who is emotionally not available to you or is not willing to, especially, during your difficult time, he/she is the right partner for you. A healthy and happy relationship demands of both the partners to be emotionally available for each other whenever the situation demands. Holding hands together, even when not physically present, is a vital element of a happy relationship.
Trusting each is paramount in a successful relationship
When trust and reliability are the issue, a relationship cannot sustain for long. In case your partner is unable to trust you for things in life, you must understand that he/she is not the right person for you. Once the foundation of trust is not built in a relationship, it is quite a challenging task for both the partners to respect or believe each other.
We are not perfet nobody is, it doesn't wether if you have different views and beliefs with you partner because it natural both of you are unique, you and your partner grown from places maybe you're both from the same but your upbringing are not the same. Being married doesn't mean that you to live on each other's differences but rather to create a new relationship out of it. Succes in relationship is not by living on each other's expectation but by recreating.
I agree! No one is perfect :)
you are still not answering why you feel justified to go and flag every post i ever made and then to spend the rest of the night instantly flagging anything elese i posted. all because on your post "is online dating good for scocity?" where i commeted "its sad and depressing imo" you then went to my page and flagged all my posts? why? how was your actions that made me start spamming you for answers not trolling? you took my rating down from 37 to 2. why was that ok in your eyes?
What I have learned is the majority of people in our society seem to have this "best version" of themselves up for the first 3 months of a relationship. After that you find out who they really are.
Wish it wasn't so. I'm more of what you see is what you get, transparency advocate. Seems to throw people off though...LOL.
So true! You have to date someone like a year before fully getting to know them. It sucks, Why waste time? Just show yourself.
you are still not answering why you feel justified to go and flag every post i ever made and then to spend the rest of the night instantly flagging anything elese i posted. all because on your post "is online dating good for scocity?" where i commeted "its sad and depressing imo" you then went to my page and flagged all my posts? why? how was your actions that made me start spamming you for answers not trolling? you took my rating down from 37 to 2. why was that ok in your eyes?
Hey @nameles spamming the comments like this is a good way to continue to be flagged. Move on, post new content increase your reputation if its important to you. Making posts calling someone a bitch/cunt and spamming their comments wont get you anything positive from the community.
No one "owes" you an explanation on how they vote. But people will continue to flag off-topic and spammy comments like this. I get it, you're mad, but this isnt helping you.
she already dropped my rating to 2 what difference does it make if I get flagged more? I no longer care about the community here because all of you have shown over and over you will support her flagging someone for no reason and killing there rating but the second someone does the same back to her the steemit community jumps in to tell people how they need to stop. meanwile none of you tell her that what she did was wrong or ask her to defend her stance or give reasons for it. I understand no one owes me explanations for anything. I told her it would stop if she just said why she did it and why she finds her acions justified. also understand I do not owe her anything but more spamming for she cant even give the respect she thinks she deserves by saying why she went and flagged every post I ever made b4 I started bothering her. nothing is going to help me besides her removing all the flagging she did and giving an apologie/reason on why she did what she did. she knows she is in the wrong that is why she is not answering and just keeps flagging. his could have been over long time ago. she is the one dragging it out. after how I have been treated my first 3 days here I have no want to stick around after I get her reason why, an apologie or complete banning. it will still say forever on her posts how she did this to someone for no reason and couldn't back up her action let alone take accountability for it.
thanx for trying to help but nothing going to change this except her finally answering why she feels justifiyed in flagging everyhing I had ever posted and spent a whole night instant flagging anything I posted because I had a different opinion then she does about online dating.
Agreed. Have to admit you have kind of become my steemit source of motivation, being that I feel the "life" related stuff we both write is on the same wave length. However, your posts get way more votes and votes that actually make money. (I have a post with 24 votes worth $0.00...LMAO) So I keep plugging away nearly as much trying to build that following.
In fact I made my first VIDEO post today (while sick as a dog) to take it another level and set an example about people taking action. Sadly, no much feedback, but I'm still proud of the message and the rawness of the video.
Aww man! Keep trying you'll get it. get better you don't need to be sick :( Get some rest and keep posting!
you are still not answering why you feel justified to go and flag every post i ever made and then to spend the rest of the night instantly flagging anything elese i posted. all because on you post "is online dating good for scocity?" where i commeted "its sad and depressing imo" you then went to my page and flagged all my posts? why? how was your actions that made me start spamming you for answers not trolling? you took my rating down from 37 to 2. why was that ok in your eyes?
i can't upvote you i got following error
Transaction failed: abs_rshares > 50000000 || abs_rshares == 1: voting weight is too small, please accumulate more voting power or steem power
Had you been voting a LOT prior to this?
Looks like your voting power may have dropped too low. You can check it by clicking here and checking the 'voting power' line. The more you vote the lower your power drops. But it does recover. Looks like your back at 86% now. So you can try again. If its not that it may have just been a bug in the transaction. You can just try refreshing the page or signing out/in again. Good luck.
Thanks a lot Schro , i appreciate your help
Thank you! I didn't know this can happen :) I hope this helps you @Carfreak
you are still not answering why you feel justified to go and flag every post i ever made and then to spend the rest of the night instantly flagging anything elese i posted. all because on you post "is online dating good for scocity?" where i commeted "its sad and depressing imo" you then went to my page and flagged all my posts? why? how was your actions that made me start spamming you for answers not trolling? you took my rating down from 37 to 2. why was that ok in your eyes?
Probably because of how inappropriately you reacted...
this is day 3, she did it to me my first and second day, all I have done is ask her why she flagged everything I had ever posted. so no I was calm about my reaction and how was my reaction of asking how saying online dating is "sad and depressing imo" is rude and innapropirate? when it was a question "is online dating good for scocity?". I guess like I said before, you all support her flaggin people because they have a different opinon then hers but don't support others when they ask why she went and flagged everything I had ever posted taking the money away from my first profit video (who cares if it was only 0.01 it was my first one, second day of account.) and dropping my rating from 37 to 6. so saying how I am reacting now after she already did it all and I didn't do anything but ask why is stupid logic. I did not start this spamming asking why till today(my 3rd day)
Thanks kayl
What the! Try again I've never seen that happen before.
you are still not answering why you feel justified to go and flag every post i ever made and then to spend the rest of the night instantly flagging anything elese i posted. all because on you post "is online dating good for scocity?" where i commeted "its sad and depressing imo" you then went to my page and flagged all my posts? why? how was your actions that made me start spamming you for answers not trolling? you took my rating down from 37 to 2. why was that ok in your eyes?
you are still not answering why you feel justified to go and flag every post i ever made and then to spend the rest of the night instantly flagging anything elese i posted. all because on you post "is online dating good for scocity?" where i commeted "its sad and depressing imo" you then went to my page and flagged all my posts? why? how was your actions that made me start spamming you for answers not trolling? you took my rating down from 37 to 2. why was that ok in your eyes?
I don't think it is an issue that you are not your true self. As long as it is the self that you feel most comfortable and at harmony with. Afterall, every single person we meet has some level of impact on our behaviour and personality, some deeper than others.
It goes without saying, that, the significant other is referred to this way because of their signifance in altering you whether for the good or bad.
SO true! I love this!
you are still not answering why you feel justified to go and flag every post i ever made and then to spend the rest of the night instantly flagging anything elese i posted. all because on your post "is online dating good for scocity?" where i commeted "its sad and depressing imo" you then went to my page and flagged all my posts? why? how was your actions that made me start spamming you for answers not trolling? you took my rating down from 37 to 2. why was that ok in your eyes?
My ultimate goal is for people to be who they are and be proud. There's all the beauty in being yourself and none in pretending to not be you. There's no point. It's better to have people dislike you for being yourself than to pretend and be loved by everyone else. There's no joy and happiness in that. Your posts are very practical and relatable to all. You break it down nicely and keep it simple. That's great :)
Thank you! I do my best to make it easy to understand.
People definitely need to be their selves.
you are still not answering why you feel justified to go and flag every post i ever made and then to spend the rest of the night instantly flagging anything elese i posted. all because on your post "is online dating good for scocity?" where i commeted "its sad and depressing imo" you then went to my page and flagged all my posts? why? how was your actions that made me start spamming you for answers not trolling? you took my rating down from 37 to 2. why was that ok in your eyes?
LOL XD
you are still not answering why you feel justified to go and flag every post i ever made and then to spend the rest of the night instantly flagging anything elese i posted. all because on you post "is online dating good for scocity?" where i commeted "its sad and depressing imo" you then went to my page and flagged all my posts? why? how was your actions that made me start spamming you for answers not trolling? you took my rating down from 37 to 2. why was that ok in your eyes?
you are still not answering why you feel justified to go and flag every post i ever made and then to spend the rest of the night instantly flagging anything elese i posted. all because on you post "is online dating good for scocity?" where i commeted "its sad and depressing imo" you then went to my page and flagged all my posts? why? how was your actions that made me start spamming you for answers not trolling? you took my rating down from 37 to 2. why was that ok in your eyes?
Great Post!
yay!! Thank you
you are still not answering why you feel justified to go and flag every post i ever made and then to spend the rest of the night instantly flagging anything elese i posted. all because on you post "is online dating good for scocity?" where i commeted "its sad and depressing imo" you then went to my page and flagged all my posts? why? how was your actions that made me start spamming you for answers not trolling? you took my rating down from 37 to 2. why was that ok in your eyes?
I'm my husband's third wife. He's my second husband. And we've known each other since we were 15! By the time we finally hooked up, we were beyond fake things and games. We trust each other implicitly and simply couldn't lie to each other if we wanted to. We know each other too well
On the same token, we will do anything for each other, and we have been through life challenges that would test any marriage.
you are still not answering why you feel justified to go and flag every post i ever made and then to spend the rest of the night instantly flagging anything elese i posted. all because on you post "is online dating good for scocity?" where i commeted "its sad and depressing imo" you then went to my page and flagged all my posts? why? how was your actions that made me start spamming you for answers not trolling? you took my rating down from 37 to 2. why was that ok in your eyes?
you are still not answering why you feel justified to go and flag every post i ever made and then to spend the rest of the night instantly flagging anything elese i posted. all because on you post "is online dating good for scocity?" where i commeted "its sad and depressing imo" you then went to my page and flagged all my posts? why? how was your actions that made me start spamming you for answers not trolling? you took my rating down from 37 to 2. why was that ok in your eyes?