RE: Have you ever seen or met someone who represents someone you fear you might turn out like when you are old?
Your posts always put me in state talking with you while reading them, and the moment I end reading and want to start comment I don't know from where to begin..Some details in this story of an old man reminded me on my father, long gone ..Man who lost will to live, who lost my mother because of her illness, lost country in which he believed ..But going trough live of my father , and some other people who decided, and I say for reason decided, to move away from life, turning to numb life with help of some vices, I know I can't judge them, but also learned it's very hard, or no way in helping them, speaking of persons who see themselves at the end of life. We can be there, but change something? Well, as it said we all make our own destiny, cliche ..or not?
My father had one sentence for me when I was foaming in anger about people being rude, bad etc..He was very calm person, and he would said to me, Dunja my child, look at hand, five different fingers all living at same hand..That's how it's with people, we are all different..
Also, there is one difference I noticed over years, if man lost woman he gets more easily depressed and sometimes stays that way for a long time, woman on contrary are more easily dealing with pain and lost and continue to fight with life after some time..I believe that nature made it that way somehow ..
That's all I came out with ''smart'' to say about your another great post.
So, sit, and talk with him while you are enjoying in it..one day he won't be there and only good staff will be remembered :)
Thank you for sharing your thoughts my dear friend. Your words move me as I feel the power of the truth in them. A truth that can only come from the experience of real life. Your father was a wise man and I am sure you miss him. I think you are right when you say a woman can bare pain more than a man. I have come to this conclusion myself long ago. Men think the are strong but the strength is only skin deep. The strength of a woman goes deep. For some reason nature has made is so.
Just recently I have seen much in the news about men sexually abusing, harassing women in Hollywood. I dont know if you have heard about this. There is a big movement of woman "coming out" and telling of their experiences and ordeals. I have been quite shocked by this and admit I was rather naive and did not really know such things went on. In my world, for as longs as I can ver remember, I have never seen woman other than as equals, in fact I looked up to woman and high the highest of respect. Therefore the idea of a man mistreating a woman simply never entered my thoughts. I have been thinking about this recently and wondered why I am like this? When I think back I can see I have always been surrounded by strong women. My mother was very string minded with a strong will. (she died when I was a child) I had many aunts and they were very strong willed woman also. At school more than half of my teachers were women who were also very strong and independent. They were all strong but at the same time gentle and caring. Therefore perhaps I have been lucky in this way. I have no illusions, I understand that a woman is far stronger than a man. It is a strength that a man can never know until they are gone from their lives.
I always value your words @jungwatercolor
I heard about harassing women in Hollywood, and must admit, not so surprised..Why? Well let me describe it from personal angle..Myself are not bad looking person, but also educated and self thinking person..Brains and looks can be huge problem in life, if you come across those who would like to take advantage..And living in country where women are raised by their mothers and grandmothers in rule..shh be quiet, don't argue, keep quiet, you know how many woman suffer the same and they are quiet...be a good wife..be a good employee..be less paid for same job ...and do it harder ...
So, to repeat my self I am not surprised. I had luck to be raised by two smart and opened persons who nursed my personality..But that kind of education had price in my life, man I was involved with in relationships usually at first were attracted with my personality..but after some time they wanted to change me and make a good-wife model out of me...And you can guess how it ended :)
At jobs was even harder, sometimes I was dressing as worse as I could just to keep me alone..
But there is also another side of coin in this story..
There are woman, and now days not so small number of them who are willingly accepting this kind of treatment, and have no problem to be treated like rugs just to have, better coat, larger house, better job...So, maybe some man are just thinking it's ok.
And from point of you, person who was raised to respect woman, and value good personality from every human I can understand how surprised you are..
Maybe it will be great topic for some new great post of yours..
Nice talking to you again, and hope one day we will be able to seat, drink and have long conversation :)
Sounds like you are also one of those strong women I spoke of. It takes a strong person to not allow someone to change you. Why people wish to change who we are is a mystery to me. We are all unique in every way. This is what makes life interesting. I am glad you were raised by intelligent open . minded people. A rare thing these days.
Yes I may well write a blog on this subject.
Always a pleasure to read your words - I am sure a conversation with you would be a fascinating one. In the mean time, your amazing art speaks volumes to me.
thank you, we could go like this for days :))
Waiting for next post and in the mean time have a wonderful time :)