The Debate on whether or not to homeschool - what is best for children?
Good Afternoon! Guten Tag! Goeie middag! 午安 Dobré odpoledne God eftermiddag Bon après-midi! What opportunities are out there that children in public school are missing? Will my child thrive in a homeschool environment? There are many considerations that have to be taken into account and we are just at the beginning.
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Recently, I read a post by @jamiecrypto about his family's personal experience in homeschooling and unschooling. It really got me thinking about our child's future, even though he won't be born for another five months. I had considered homeschooling my oldest when she was little but life just didn't allow for it. Now with a more supportive partner, the idea has resurfaced and encouraged me to do alot more research. While I'm not ready to delve into full unschooling quite yet, traditional homeschooling with a taste of unschooling in later grades does appeal to me more.
Homeschooling is apparently becoming more attractive to families exponentially throughout the US although there is still an argument whether or not is it the most beneficial type of education for children.
In Florida the numbers are growing to great lengths for various reasons, many more than the original justification of religion.
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Before deciding whether to homeschool our newest child, taking a look at the pros and cons seemed the best place to start. I did find out that some things that land in one category could also be a point in the other category as well. We have a few years before having to make the final decision, and in that time many things can change in our lives...location, finances, etc., so I anticipate revisiting this list a few times and re-evaluating our position based on the current situaton.
Pros of Homeschooling
I determine what my child learns:
Although I have had a more traditional upbringing that has filtered over into my adult life, our son's dad is an atheist and anarchist. Because I like to learn, I have been reading up on anarchist principals, particularly how much truth is kept from us by the government and media. Being able to teach our child the truth, and teaching him to question everything is a positive that is not available, nor encouraged, in public schools.
Less stress and anxiety:
With two children in public school, I have seen plenty of stress and anxiety exhibited by them. Having this lessened by homeschooling, I believe, would make for a happier child, one that wants to learn. Getting up in the morning and being rushed off to the bus at some ungodly hour, pressured to learn in a certain way because that is what the teacher says is right, afraid to ask questions because they may seem stupid (there are no stupid questions), upset over homework and staying up late trying to finish it, and more...this is what I see from my girls on a regular basis.
With homeschooling, there is no rushing around in the morning, time for a proper breakfast and preparation for the day. There is no specific schedule to learning. There is time to spend on topics that the child is having difficulty with. And there is no waiting for other children to catch up to move on to another topic that is understood. That leads to less boredom and more learning!
Personalized and individualized learning:
Every child learns differently and at varying paces. In a classroom, teachers often have 30-40 children, most in my school district are overcrowded, making it very difficult for children to receive any type of individual instruction or assistance should they need it. Teachers are forced to take the middle of the road - in teaching styles and pace at which they teach. This inevitably means that some students get left behind while others sit bored and can potentially become disruptive because of this boredom.
Being homeschooled, our child would be able to learn at his own speed, and any difficulties would be quickly identified and addressed before they become an on-going issue. Additionally, this would mean that we could tailor instruction around what interests our child. If he says that he wants to learn Japanese, or about another topic that is not available in public schools, we can add that into the curriculum, whereas that is not possible in public schools. There are many resources available throughout the internet that can provide support to teach these extra topics that teaching our child almost anything they want to learn about would be possible.
Safety
Violence in schools in notoriously on the rise, bullying has become a very real and serious problem, drugs in schools are prevalent in our area. None of these would be worries any longer with home education. Even twenty-five years ago, I got into a couple of fights in high school. I was bullied throughout middle school and high school. Not intentionally do I project my experiences onto my child, I just don't want him to have to unnecessarily go through what I did.
Peer pressure becomes a thing of the past, with children no longer feeling the need to "fit in". They are free to dress and act (within reason) how they feel most comfortable, being able to find themselves without the fear of ridicule.
Learning opportunities
While public schools do offer field trips once or twice a year, homeschooling provides that opportunity on a much more frequent basis. Educational trips can be based on whatever is being learned at that time....nature parks to learn about wildlife, museums for science and social studies, and other such places for geography, language arts, foreign languages, and much more. The possibilities are endless. Local homeschooling support groups are also great ways to socialize and teach at the same time. Group trips and meetings are beneficial to both the parents and the children.
Closer family relationships
Spending additional time together (rather than rushing off to school, then homework, dinner, and bed, after school), helps to build a tighter relationship between the children and parents. If there is a sibling also being homeschooled, as a "classmate" their relationship frequently grows closer as well. Being able to enjoy learning and teaching makes a happier, more stable family and the child is learning more than just what is taught in a classroom.
No homework, no busywork
Sometimes it can take a week or more to cover a topic in public school, much of this time being spent on busy work because the teacher is helping other students. Subjects can often be covered in just a few hours at home versus days on end in a typical classroom settting. This means that more information can be covered in a shorter time, allowing for additional extracurricular activities, group get-togethers, field trips, etc. And without the homework that is typically brought home, causing stress between parents and children, evenings can be enjoyed and family quality time will be more relaxed. Any school related questions that arise can be addressed during whatever hours (flexibility!) are scheduled for learning. This is the parent's perogative - learning hours can be throughout the day, a specific time, blocks of time, whichever works best for the family and is most beneficial to the child.
Cons
Financial feasibility
Having a one-income household is not possible for everyone. Currently, I work from home and blog (on Steemit) and my boyfriend has a regular day job. Whether or not I will be able to continue working from home and be successful at homeschooling is a question. In today's economy, it is difficult to adequately provide for a family with one income, unless you are a doctor, lawyer, etc. This is one of the reasons that I am exploring the home education option so early; if we are to do this, it will take a lot of planning and budgeting financial resources. Homeschooling is not free, but there are ways to do it inexpensively without sacrificing your child's education. There are a plethera of resources online and in Florida we have a virtual school available at no cost to students with most courses starting at 6th grade. Although these may seem like positives, they can also be negatives in that we, as parents, are spending money on events, supplies, etc that may be covered by the school district if the child were in public school. To be considered is the amount spent on various school supply lists, not only for your child, but for the entire class.
Socialization
This is often touted as the biggest downfall to homeschooling. Children do not have the opportunity throughout the day to interact with other children and make friends. This also includes learning how to deal with disagreements and building their social development. Even with support groups, outings and the like, these will doubtfully add up to the numerous hours that a child will interact with other students during the typical school week. This may lead to behavioral issues in the future. Along these lines, the child will not be able to have the back and forth discussions during learning times, which can be a valuable learning tool.
** Exhaustion**
This includes the child and parents. There is a lot of extra work that goes into planning schedules, outings, keeping portfolios and documentation required by the state, gathering learning resources and creating a curriculum. This is all in addition to actually teaching your child. This can lead to exhaustion of the parent, creating additional stress that must not be carried over to interactions with the child. The teaching parent and the child will also have no time away from each other during the day and night, except for possible time with the other parent and playdates. Not having a break from each other can be quite exhausting for all involved.
Team sports and extra-curricular activities
Depending on the school district and state, participation in school sponsored activities may not be an option. Team sports, debate team, chorus, band, etc. - these all help to build self-esteem and teamwork skills. The skills learned during team activities can form a very important base that is needed during careers later in life.
In Florida where we live, the laws have been changed to allow homeschooled children to have most of the same opportunities as public school enrolled children:
To participate in “inter-scholastic extracurricular activities”, Section 1006.15 F.S., requires that
home education students be given the same opportunity as public school students. The law prohibits
any requirements that would make participation less accessible for home education students and
creates a broad definition of “interscholastic extracurricular activities” that covers any activity
occurring during or outside the regular school day.
http://www.fldoe.org/core/fileparse.php/7709/urlt/Home_Ed_FAQs_10-8-15.pdf
Although we have more research to continually over the next few years, the answer seems to be clear what would be in our child's best interests. Both his dad and I have college degrees, at opposite ends of the spectrum. I have a B.S. in Justice Studies and Political Science, with a minor in Sociology as well as a J.D. He has a degree in Graphic Arts design, specializing in logo/branding. If one of us doesn't know the answer to a question, the other probably will, and if there is a case where we are both stumped, there are plenty of resources across the web, along with support groups to seek assistance from. Home schooling doesn't mean that the village isn't raising your children, it means (to me) that as a parent you have more control over your child's education, rather than the school district. My older two girls have spent the last few years being taught what the government wants them to learn, basically being taught how to take the FSA (formerly FCAT). Unless, as a parent, we choose to use a standardized test as the annual evaluation tool for our homeschooled child, he will not take the FSA. We can focus on what is important for success later in life, rather than what will get the school district a good grade.
We will being re-evaluating the feasibility of homeschooling periodically, as life does change in unexpected directions. I am specifically speaking of finances and the school district in which we reside when it comes time for kindergarten registration. As a mother, I would enjoy being able to guide my son through his early years in a way that was not available to me before. To educate him, to provide for him in a very unique way. Although homeschooling may not be for all, I believe that it is a direction that would be positive for our family.
I would love to hear your suggestions and comments, there very well may be some pros and cons that I have not addressed here. I welcome input from others!
Resources:
*http://educationnext.org/home-schooling-goes-mainstream/
*https://www.flvs.net/
*https://spielgaben.com/pros-and-cons-of-mainstream-schools-homeschooling-and-unschooling-and-which-one-should-i-choose-for-my-child/
*http://www.homeschool-companion.com/pros-and-cons-of-homeschooling.html
*http://www.fldoe.org/schools/school-choice/other-school-choice-options/home-edu/
*http://www.homeschoolingflorida.com/resources/pasco.html
*http://florida-homeschooling.org/
I would happily home school my girls but as a widowed mum it just isnt an option for me. I hope it works for your family
Wow. What a comprehensive post on your issue. You seem to have all the basics wrapped up, now it seems that you just need to follow your heart and instinct.
Although I do not have children of my own, I have spent a fair bit of time researching the topic. The reason I have done so is because the schooling system (western schooling system at least), is a very integral part to the current domination and suppression the world is facing.
It actually came up during research of the 1 percenters, and how the current school system was created to create a new breed of factory workers.
After the industrial revolution, the powers that be saw a need for what i like to call admin/pen-pushers for their high rising buildings to fill. It was a smart idea. Train people, at a young age, where they absorb the most information, on how to be good, productive little worker bees, who pay tax, vote, and contribute the very corrupt system that we live in. It wasn't all that bad, for our parents that is. Remember, I might be wrong but I believe the current schooling system was only founded in the 50's. I am not sure what happened before, but I do know a couple of things about the current system.
I have met some young kids who are not even homeschooled as such. The one kid, 15, working with his father and learning how to be a carpenter. Already earning an income, I even think hes paying tax, or at least he understands how it works. Understands how money works and how to use it wisely. At the age of 15!
It is easy for me to sit here and type and give suggestions when I am not even near that kind of decsion, but I do believe I have made my mind up on what I would do, and it is certainly not send my kid to a typical school.
Here in South Africa, some concerned parents are offering a different type of unschooling school. I dont know too much about it, but that could be an option for you @jessica-miller. A bit of a hybrid.
Anyway, my cents. Thank you for reading
Wow, thank you, I never knew the background of why our school systems are like they are, but it definitely makes sense. I've seen plenty of the "shampoo, rinse, repeat" mentality throughout my education and my children's as well. I have seen some articles on unschooling and it may be something that I integrate in later years, but in my opinion, that is too much responsibility to place on a young child. They should have a little more structure to begin, at least to gain the basics. In my understanding, unschooling involves the child telling you what they want to learn and when. I need to do more research into it, but I think it may be a type of education best suited for students that already have the basics down...letters, numbers, colors, writing, basic math etc. Thank you very much for your input, I aim at learning something new everyday!
You will have to do more research on unschooling to grasp it better. I unschool my three elementary children. The thing is that children are ALWAYS learning. Unschooling is a continuation of what they have done up until school age -- they learned to walk and talk without any teacher or curriculum. One funny thought I've read is that if the government told us that our 6-month babies MUST go to crawling/walking/talking school ... before long everybody would believe that children would never learn to crawl, walk or talk without schools or without curriculum.
As for the exhaustion you mention in your post -- that would not be as much of a problem with unschooling. You are probably going to have your children home with you up until school-age, so when the time comes you will know if you like being with your children all day or not. For myself, I could not stand the thought of sending my precious babies to kindergarten when the time came. I am a very "attached" parent and they were very "attached" little children.
Unschooling is something we are definitely looking into in more depth, I just don't understand it fully at this point. I hope to not have to use daycares...been there, done that, not fond of them. Hopefully finances will allow that. Thank you for your insight and input, I enjoy hearing from parents that are going through the experience.
You would probably enjoy this book: "Project Based Homeschooling". It is almost unschooling. There is "structure" but it is the parent who needs to be structured to record and fully help her child in figuring out what their interests are and how to continue to encourage further exploration of those interests and how to facilitate them.
For me, I'm more of a "wing-it" girl. So I LOVED the concepts in this book but never quite implemented them in the structured way presented. I learned a lot though. Have a read! The thing about homeschooling/unschooling is to READ, READ, READ and then grab the concepts that you like and that actually work for you and your family.
http://project-based-homeschooling.com/camp-creek-blog
Great post! In the homeschool community, many families chuckle at the socialization arguments that are posed. Because we know that homeschoolers are often more socialized than public school kids. We get to interact with like minded people, instead of being forced to socialize with kids only in our grade level that we may not even have anything in common with. We meet other kids that are interested in learning what we are learning, regardless of their age - and we work together.
Being homeschooled doesn't mean sitting at home alone. There are a lot of homeschool co-ops and social groups. And it may take some time to find just the right one, but they are out there.
Choosing homeschool as my method of learning really worked for me. I highly recommend homeschooling and wish more people could see the benefits.
We wrote a few blogs on Steemit about some benefits to homeschooling if you're interested. Just check out our page. :-)
We homeschool our 5 kids (well, actually only 2 of them at the moment as the others are 5 and under). We love it and many of the things you point out are totally true. We love the time we spend together and have made many friends who also homeschool. It is the right choice for us. Thanks for the post!! Going to check out your others!
I'm currently homeschooling my two children, 5th and 10th grade respectively. This is our 2nd year and we are about to finish the current school year in a month (we follow the Philippines' June-March school season). In 8 months, we've covered so many lessons and had lots of fun times together as a family. Getting ready for Senior High is what scares me a bit. I have doubts of my capabilities as the primary educator of my child, but I know that it's going to be a two-way learning process, so that makes me excited also.
I was homeschooled in Oregon, above California. It helped. I'm glad you're homeschooling your kids. Keep up the good work.
I was homeschooled in Oregon. Thanks for this great article. Another debate could be concerning college, especially with what happened to Aunt Becky of Full House.
This was great to read. And words like these keep me motivated. I loved that badge about socialization!!!! lol seriously...