You are so right with this article! I find many times communication breaks down because of emotions. It has happened to me and I often see it in others.

My personal experience that hit me hard was many years ago when I was reading something written to me and I must have read it too fast. I made an assumption about what the writer was saying and I felt hurt by it. I could literally feel the rush in my body. I stopped reading and did something else for a while. In the meantime, I was thinking about why this person would write such things about me. I was really upset by it.

After some time, I decided to re-read what was written so that I could better defend myself. I read each line carefully so that I could be certain of my defense strategy. Suddenly, I was at the end of the material and I couldn't find anything bad written about me! I went back to the beginning and read it again. Still nothing!

For some strange reason, my own mind was playing tricks on me and there must have been some guilt or something that made me think that there was something bad written about me.

That was a long time ago and I have no idea what it was all about, but I clearly remember the lesson I learned. I allowed my ego and my emotions to take over my thinking. This was one of my first big eye openers. I was starting to learn about myself, and I didn't like what I was seeing.

I've had other experiences after that that really made me look deep into myself and re-examine who I was and what I wanted to be. It does take a lot of work and one has to be determined to conquer one's own ego because it doesn't want to lose.

It is not easy to control your emotions, but once emotion hits, the game is over. It's almost impossible to think rationally in an emotional state. One must calm them-self, regain control and then allow yourself to think clearly with an earnest desire to understand.