Great post. I recognize these things from my own life. As I grew older these problems vanished for the most part.
I have a friend who is always feeding his subconscious mind with negativity. He has financial problems and tells himself that it is because he hase some health problems. I often try to help him realize that he can do much more than he thinks he can. But for that to happen he needs to change something. He needs to stop feeding his subconscious mind with all that negativity.
This week he opend my eyes by doeing and saying certain things. He told me (withous actually saying) he does not want to be helped at all. Somehow his subconscious mind tells him he likes to be unhappy, poor and sick. Maybe he is in this situation too long and somehow feels comfortable with it.
I gave up on him. Might not even be my friend anymore. I am not willing to feed my own subconscious mind with all that negativity.