RE: Why Do We Listen To Sad Music When We Are Sad?
It's cool, no worries. It's not too personal and I'll certainly let you know if I ever feel like you're getting too personal or anything like that.
Thanks. I like to step carefully in situations like this because I don't want to accidentally end up hurting someone. Glad to know it's okay with you :)
Your thoughts on the subject helped me reflect more and find more peace with my sadness, sometimes I feel pressured or almost bullied by others to be happier, and I get it.. They don't wanna see me sad, and they wanna help..
Thanks again, and I can empathize with your words. It's such a difficult place to be in when your friends have good intentions and want to see you happy, but the pressure they put you in to be happy almost always makes things worse.
This is the part where emotional intelligence comes into play. People with high EQ know that it's not gonna make things better if you pressurize a person to be happy. It's often better to let them experience that pain and recover from it overtime.
There's no shortcut to long-term happiness.
Though I've been through a lot of pain and I need to go through it and express myself.
Expressing yourself indeed makes it so much easier to deal with and I'm sorry you had to go through all that, but if you look at it from my perspective, the more sensitive a person is to bad feelings, the more they enjoy the good feelings. I really mean it. I wrote the following lines in one of my older articles which I think explains a lot of what I'm trying to say:
"People like these sure have more to lose, but they also have more to live for. They feel greater levels of compassion, intimacy, sense of purpose, attraction, fulfillment and pretty much every other thing that makes for a meaningful life."
Here is the link to the article if you'd like to read the whole thing.
You're welcome. Thank you as well! I've been appreciating our exchanges, I seem to learn new stuff every time we talk! Seeya next time!
It goes both ways, haha! You seem to teach me stuff every time you share your life stories and I often feel like I can relate with you on so many levels. Glad to know you like my wor
Word. I appreciate that.
Yeah.. I agree. As much as we want people to be happy, it's good to realize it can't be forced and that they'll likely be happier in the long run if they go through it.
Well said.. And thanks for the link, will check it out when I can. Either tonight or tomorrow probably. And yeah it seems like when you try to force your mental state you're repressing feelings and becoming more robotic for lack of a better word, I think if we're more fluid and honest and natural that that is more ideal and conducive. And I didn't have any studies to base that on until you shared that I just felt it intuitively and tend to listen to my intuition as it's rarely wrong. Sometimes it is, but rarely.
Cool. :D Glad we can help each other learn and have some great conversations while we're at it. :)
Yup. The moment you hold your feelings back and repress them, you are distancing yourself from yourself. The more you try to appeal to others, without first appealing to yourself, the less real you become as a person.
Indeed. It's amazing how similar people across the globe can be :)