This is exactly how I think now too, two years ago I was breaking up a 3 years relationship, and I've made the mistake to "accept her conditions" her desires that end up making me far from my friends and things I like to do, such as mountain trails, go to the cinema and even to continue studying Japonese which is something I really like and think it will be useful to fulfill some of my life dreams.

After we breake up I was in a situation very similar as the one you said, I was literally dedicating my life to "try to make her happy in her term" even when I didn't agreed with then. so when we break up I had to slowly relearn to live, starting getting closer to my friends again, doing things for my happiness, and some weeks latter I start felling alive again.

There is nothing better than the fulfillment feeling when you are doing whatever you want to be doing, 2 years after this break up I feel like a brand new man, chasing my life dreams and making a promise to my self that will not let anyone push me away from the happiness to chase my life dreams and from having the pleasure of living.