"Steemit Engagement Challenge S5-W2 - My 3 Best Characters Vs 3 Worst Characters".

Hello Steemians,

I send my best regards to all members of the #Steem4Nigeria community for this proposal under the Steemit Engagement Challenge Season 5 which is about our personalities asking for 3 qualities we will advise people to take and 3 of our gaps that we hope to overcome with awareness and time.

List 3 characters of yours that are the best or good characters that you have. Explain them and how you display them.

Good listener:

One of my characteristics is that if someone talks to me about anything, advice, or a problem, to discuss anything, I listen to them and listen carefully and focus on their conversation well. that important, I speak little about it myself and that makes the person in front of me like to talk to me and like the dialogue and often takes me to the center of the person to whom he turns to solve his problems.

Would you advise others to display it?

The famous saying of Socrates, widely known and translated into all the languages of the world, one is hidden under his tongue, and each of us needs to speak for others to recognize it, as well as its different thoughts, feelings and the beliefs become clear.

In fact, although many of us don't know the importance of being a good listener, it is important and will change the course of your life and your beliefs in various aspects of life. The difference is in your personality and your thoughts, and you see for yourself its results and how you will go from introverted to social, and how your thoughts will go from stagnation to diversity and knowledge of several cultures, and how you will get rid of nervousness and haste and learn to calm down and accept others as soon as possible as your first attempts, as this will of course benefit you in your field of work, especially if it is media related or to teaching and other jobs that require effectively possessing this skill.

Trustworthy and Honesty:

My family usually tell me that I am trustworthy and they entrust their property and business to me, I cannot alter, harm or add to anything from anyone, I cannot lie to anyone about everything they have entrusted to me, I am very committed to that.

I don't know exactly how I acquired it, but I can tell you that my relationship with my Lord and my fear of Him made me like this, the Quran taught me and taught me, that to adhere to your principles do not deviate from them. bad thing.

Would you advise others to display it?

A comfortable and beautiful feeling for anyone when the seller calls him to return the rest of the amount he forgot with him, an act that indicates that there is good in the hearts of the simplest people.

Look at yourself What are you teaching your children? Do you only have honesty in big concepts such as not betraying and keeping trust? Or does it even include your simple actions: like justifying your son's absence from school with fake excuses, or getting a sick certificate for him without being sick?

When children realize the importance of honesty, they should appreciate the effects of loyalty and betrayal, because betrayal hurts those around them and hurts the person to their depths.

Many young people take things that don't belong to them with the intention of stealing; But for the sake of getting things they like, parents need only teach him the concept of his inability to take things from others and make him give back to himself. The conversation with him should be longer and more intense, because he taught them to master their schoolwork, to keep the books and to be honest by researching and passing on correct information.

Honesty comes from within the human being, and we cannot force our children to embrace it, but we can provide them with good role models and the appropriate environment in which they learn to create honesty.

Not losing hope

We've all been through tough times and we always come to a point where we feel good and don't want to go on anymore, what I love is that at this point I'm smiling and painting a better stage to live and it is a source of hope, even though I see myself quite unlucky and I have been through a lot, but I never gave up hope that the day I was waiting for or the life I was hoping for would come; I lose hope one day and what makes me most proud is the presence of people around me who have what I don't have, but who quickly lose hope unlike me who has no less than a third their luck, but I'm with everything I never gave up and never lost hope.

Would you advise others to display it?

Even the simple things in life, many people have become unable to wait or be patient with them, for example, the Internet is slow, the message did not reach me on time, the delivery of orders was delayed, the road was crowded.

I believe that expecting immediate results is dangerous for our future. Our impatience prevents us from achieving our dreams and wasting the opportunities in our hands, and this is the reason that makes us turn to quick goals, even if the road is long and requires great effort, many people give up.

In fact, the people who achieved great successes had a long way to go, and they failed a lot, and they had great patience. They made simple steps in many years.

What are the 3 worst Characters that you sometimes display that even you condemn?

My quick and impulsive reaction:

Sometimes when discussing or solving a problem, I may respond violently because I was rushed and swore at a close person, friend or even my family, and when I sit down and I think about the words I said, I find myself rushing. I make a mistake and say why I did it and then I regret it.

Will you like to stop it? What efforts have you been making toward stopping it?

Often I read books on identifying and understanding feelings and emotions or consult specialists. and after a period I understood that people who are about to get angry go through a range of sensations, feelings and physical changes, such as: change in heart rate, breathing rate, contractions muscle and stomach disorders.

It is therefore necessary to take some time to pay attention to these physical sensations when they occur and try to determine the nature of the feeling associated with these sensations. It can be difficult at first, but with time and maturity, I get better at managing my emotions.

I can't forget the cruel acts that broke my heart:

This does not mean that I do not forgive and do not transgress .. I swear that I am good at forgiveness, I may accept their presence in my life again, perhaps because I believe that there are mistakes and transgressions that occur between people, I swear I am good at ignoring and transgressing so that friendship and communication between everyone around me continues.

And I am looking for the shortest way to escape from the world.. Only then can I not forget these situations.. I like to forget and neglect the mistakes of others, but there are situations that are stronger than my desire to forget them. Those with whom we have not spoken to anyone, only keep the smallest details and suffer only in silence.

Will you like to stop it? What efforts have you been making toward stopping it?

Perhaps the only thing that has helped me relatively to overcome this defect is to try to forget the person who hurt me is to bear and accept it.

Since accepting that something bad has happened to us will help us get past this stage, but if a person persists in denying that something bad has happened to him, he will suffer from denial; This prevents him from recovering quickly.

People who want to forget the people who offended them should move on and accept what happened to them with all their might.

My kindness is exaggerated

I have a lot of extra kindness, I mean, in a way that I can't stand it, I mean, for example, at work if someone asks me for something - and this thing is basically not my job, and I can refuse it, and no one blames me - I say good and present at all times, and if I turn off the phone with him I sit and burn myself , and angry because I accepted this matter.

I left my first job because I did not know how to say no to them. Whenever they assigned me a job, I said good, and I rejected it in my heart.

I want to be like my friends who if they are assigned a job that is not their job they simply say no, and also in my daily life if someone asks me for something I can't say no, and do the thing he wants even if I don't want to do it.

Will you like to stop it? What efforts have you been making toward stopping it?

With my understanding of the situation, which is my weakness of my ability to say the word “no” or similar words, as I think that I am mistaken. If I apologize, I am hurting the person who asked, and this is not necessarily so, or that if I apologize, people will take an unfavorable impression of me.

I sought to change this pattern of behavior, I tried to apologize once, which has already happened, so the second apology will be much easier. As I quickly noticed that this did not cause a crisis between me and others, but on the contrary, it gave me more respect and appreciation being confident in yourself, and I can say "no".

Before posting my publication, I take this opportunity to invite @steemdoctor1 @msharif @chiabertrand to participate in this contest.

Best Regards,
@kouba01