RE: Student & Steem Comment Contest - Bullies
I went to my university after vacation. I was confused about how my classmates would react. I went to the classroom. I saw friends talking with each other in groups. I went there and said, Salam. I saw there was no amusement or excitement on their faces as I saw them. They just smile and that's it. I felt very bad the very first day. I got to the last bench and my friend's seat was empty. As it was the first day so mostly teachers didn't come on the first days. I was alone waiting for the professor looking at the faces of people and thinking about how the students have groups. They were chatting gossiping hugging each other and I was alone sitting at the side. It is very difficult for a person to live alone in a place where they are all in groups.
This is the picture I took in my class while sitting at the last.
Inviting @genomil @yacksylondon @stefano.massari to participate
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You said they smiled so smile back and do not go sit in the back! Why are you doing that?
Go sit in the front! They can leave if they like.
Also don't put your feet against the seat. Are painted nails and open shoes allowed?
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Join/read/watch this one. Can you watch Korean Films? The Glory is very good!
https://steemitdev.com/hive-150487/@wakeupkitty.pal/deal-with-those-who-speak
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Hola amiga, te entiendo perfectamente porque lo viví también, solo deja que pasé el tiempo y encontraras a un grupo con tus mismos afines... Claro está, si es el lugar el que realmente perteneces, porque hay veces que no pertenecemos allí y lo queremos forzar... Gracias por la invitación y buena escritura...
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You only find the right people if you change and set boundaries. If not you will be bullied for life unless you grow a thick skin and are deaf, blind and without feelings.
Yes that is first day in school looks like, when you start a school it must take time before some particular type of people move with you and also it for you to monitor their behavior either good or bad, you are the one who can select the kind of people you need and also the kind of group you want.
Not always you can find the righteous after so much try. Some time you struggle yourself to find the people like you but you can't.
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Did you read at all? These are classmates she knows for longer!
This has happened several times to me before. But even though it felt very uncomfortable, I understood that I can't control what people think about me. And I just try to be friendly with them. Just be yourself and don't let the experience change you. It could even be that they weren't thinking about you. They could be bothered about something else and not you.
I believe after many years the experiences already changed her meaning how to change the tables? Any suggestions?
I don't understand what you mean. Could you clarify what you mean?
You said: don't let the experience change you
I said: that the experiences already changed her.
Since this is the fact I ask you: Do you have any suggestions on how she can turn the tables meaning: how to stop being ignored and bullied.
If you let the experience of people ignoring you make you believe that you cannot be liked, you create that reality for yourself. You will soon that you see that reality everywhere you go because you believe it to be true. In the market, in the hall, in the studio, everywhere you go. It's not about what happened, it's about what you do after it has happened. Knowing that you can't control what others do to you, you can't bound yourself to the fear of what others will do or think. It's their task not yours.
I know it is difficult. Of course it's difficult to have a mindset shift but there's freedom in it. By treating everyone with respect, regardless of how they perceive you. Treating yourself too with respect and stop belittling yourself. If someone doesn't like you, that's fine. There are other people who'd appreciate you. Everybody has who they like and who hey don't like.
I'm not an expert when it comes to suggestions but I'd just say to stay respectful and continue your self-improvement.
Meet other people. There would be someone whom you could form non transactional and honest relationships with.
That's what I think. I don't know.
Okay, let's pretend it is as you say but what if this isn't the case and you are beaten up for the past 6 years? Would you tell that on Steemit?
How to meet other people if you are only allowed to leave home to visit school and back?
It sounds to me you have a luxury life with all the freedom a person can have. Lucky you.
Again I ask: what to do if you are bullied for years? There must be a way out or do they all commit suicide or end up drugged in a mental imstitution?
Btw did you watch the Korean Film (2) The Glory?