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RE: Student & Steem Comment Contest - Bullies
This has happened several times to me before. But even though it felt very uncomfortable, I understood that I can't control what people think about me. And I just try to be friendly with them. Just be yourself and don't let the experience change you. It could even be that they weren't thinking about you. They could be bothered about something else and not you.
I believe after many years the experiences already changed her meaning how to change the tables? Any suggestions?
I don't understand what you mean. Could you clarify what you mean?
You said: don't let the experience change you
I said: that the experiences already changed her.
Since this is the fact I ask you: Do you have any suggestions on how she can turn the tables meaning: how to stop being ignored and bullied.
If you let the experience of people ignoring you make you believe that you cannot be liked, you create that reality for yourself. You will soon that you see that reality everywhere you go because you believe it to be true. In the market, in the hall, in the studio, everywhere you go. It's not about what happened, it's about what you do after it has happened. Knowing that you can't control what others do to you, you can't bound yourself to the fear of what others will do or think. It's their task not yours.
I know it is difficult. Of course it's difficult to have a mindset shift but there's freedom in it. By treating everyone with respect, regardless of how they perceive you. Treating yourself too with respect and stop belittling yourself. If someone doesn't like you, that's fine. There are other people who'd appreciate you. Everybody has who they like and who hey don't like.
I'm not an expert when it comes to suggestions but I'd just say to stay respectful and continue your self-improvement.
Meet other people. There would be someone whom you could form non transactional and honest relationships with.
That's what I think. I don't know.
Okay, let's pretend it is as you say but what if this isn't the case and you are beaten up for the past 6 years? Would you tell that on Steemit?
How to meet other people if you are only allowed to leave home to visit school and back?
It sounds to me you have a luxury life with all the freedom a person can have. Lucky you.
Again I ask: what to do if you are bullied for years? There must be a way out or do they all commit suicide or end up drugged in a mental imstitution?
Btw did you watch the Korean Film (2) The Glory?