Thank you steemit!
If you've ever been surfing you'll probably understand even better what I'm going to say now.
When I started to surf a couple of years ago, it completely changed my mindset and perspective.
It may sound like a stereotype but I tell you from the bottom of my heart that it's true: surfers are relaxed people.
The Ocean calms you down.
Surfers really don't need much to be happy and fulfilled in their lives.
I totally love that kind of freedom!
When I started on steemit almost one year ago I was full of enthusiasm. I got really addicted and spent more time on this platform than in the water which was a huge commitment and true exception.
Now things have changed. I've learned the hard way that being good makes you very vulnerable. People start to envy you and that makes them trying to find your weak points.
I've lived that many many times in my office jobs, too. It's part of business. Especially when you are good at what you do.
However, I haven't ever experienced something similar in the water. When you get better, your surf buddies start applauding and you celebrate your progress all together.
It's a supportive community of positive people who bundle their knowledge and energy to simply have a good time.
Since I started surfing and began to experience this outstanding ambient I closed a deal with myself: no more drama in my social life!
To me the main purpose in life has always been to have a great time.
On my way I've met uncountable brilliant and lovely people who have made that journey even more enjoyable. Isn't that the reason why we close social bonds? To make all this even more enjoyable? To share experiences, support each other and help us to become the very best version of ourselves?
Everybody has a talent, sometimes you just need a friend who points a finger at it and pushes you into the right direction.
Well that's at least my way of looking at it. No right or wrong.
And that's actually the reason why I won't spend more time on this platform.
My happiness level is considerably decreasing and I don't like seeing that :)
People who don't even know me are treating me in a way I can't permit.
I haven't joined this platform to end up defending myself. That's too much lost energy I could wisely spend surfing...:-)
You know what I mean? It's a simple decision PRO happiness.
Please excuse the black and white. Here's my last picture for you (taken right now at the beach)...
Thanks to all of you! I've really appreciated this ride, I've learned for life and I hope you had a good time reading my stuff.
The ones that have become my friends here know where to find me still...;) We'll keep in touch no matter what!
And now I really feel good which means that it's the right decision to take a creative break. Cool.
Big hugs & kisses
Marly -
In the meantime you can find me surfing the Ocean in these videos on YouTube.
This is sad news indeed. Though I don't understand the background, I hope you will reconsider. Not for us, not for Steemit, just for yourself. It's been intense on here, it takes time and hard work to produce anything of value and you've certainly done that. It's taken you away from your true passion, the sea, surfing...but perhaps you might find a more sustainable balance?! As to the dark underbelly of social media, if you encounter someone who offers nothing constructive, just ignore them. Don't allow them to chase you from what is potentially a lifelong source of income, information and community. You owe no one an explanation for what you have achieved so far, it's in the blockchain! The evidence of your worth and mettle is plain to see. Hopefully you'll take a break....a very good thing to do, and come back! Even the sea throws out a few curve balls every now and then, it is a place where you need to fight to survive on occasion. It might help to depersonalise negative blowhards and ignore them....they would be like that with anyone. All that being said, obviously do what feels right to you. Big love.
Great reply @benjojo - I also hope she will re-consider. Agreed with all you say above.
Yes, she will reconsider it :) Time solves many problems.
I totally agree with @benjojo! He said it all!
@benjojo! What a beautiful comment. It really touched me. Thank you so much!
The only thing I can reply is that I agree on everything you said. You didn't miss a single point :)
The difference between the sea and this platform is that there is no fight. You can't ever control a wave because you don't need to. You can only learn how to surf it. I know that I could learn how to surf these vibes here. But I don't want to :-) It feels good to look back and see that I've come that far. Makes me leaving with a huge smile on my face.
Again thanks for your lovely words.
I will remember this comment as one of the nicest I've ever received :)
Big hugs and take care!
Really great reply! I hope you come back soon! Really enjoyed your blogs... There will always be people who don't like what you're doing, don't like your personality, or the reason why you're doing something, but there are many more people who think opposite! So maybe take a small break from the trouble here, you deserve it! I'm still looking forward to meeting you and the others at STEEMFEST²! ;)
I'm going to miss your posts, but I totally get you! Life is too short to be anything but happy and whatever makes you unhappy are the things to get rid off! Too bad you had such a bad experience lately! Good luck in everything you do and enjoy the surfing and life (which you certainly will) ღ xxx
Thank you so much Amy!!! You totally hit the nail ;)
I'll reconsider my decision in a couple of months. Until then I'll do exactly what you said: have a blast!
All the best 😍
Enjoy and you have my support when you decide to come back! If not enjoy the surfing and everything else you do!
That was sweet! Thank you 😌
Whoa. I seriously hope you reconsider...you brought a lot of that happy to folks around here, and I really think you inspired a lot of people along the way. That being said, I respect your decision and hope you continue to find happiness in other places!
Thank you!!!!!!!!!
If I could at least inspire one person then my mission was totally accomplished :-)
The idea was to provide people with some positive vibes here, and according to all these lovely comments it seems that a lot appreciated that.
Good! So it's definitely the very best moment to go.
Have a great time and be happy :-)
Ich weiß, dass dies dein endgültiger Abschied von steemit ist. Du bleibst dir treu und ich bin wahrscheinlich ähnlich konsequent wie du. So bleibt mir nur, dir alles Gute für deine selbstbestimmte Zukunft zu wünschen.
Ein Punkt bleibt aber noch offen. Du weißt, was ich meine.
Du triffst den Nagel auf den Kopf. Es ist zu 100% eine "ich bleibe mir treu Entscheidung". Ich bin einfach nicht cool genug, um mich jeden Tag mit Menschen auseinanderzusetzen, die mich in irgendeiner Form versuchen aus der Reserve zu locken. Im Job ist das OK, aber ich habe steemit immer als Freizeitvergnügen betrachtet, und in meiner Freizeit brauche ich keinen Stress.
Ich weiß, was Du meinst. Und dieser "Punkt" bleibt unverändert :-)
Alles Gute bzw. "bis bald"...
@surfermarly I don't trust my own eyes, you decision is very sad n sudden. Please take some rest, catch the best waves and return to community. If someone envies or threatens to you, just press mute button!
Take it easy girl)
No more buttons, just waves my friend :-)
I'm sorry but I'm not cool enough to deal with assholes on a daily basis, haha!
My whole life I've always prefered to spend time with nice people. Why should I change that now? For money? Not at all :-) Waves are free so here I am.
Have a great time @elviento!!!
I totally understand you, but think it is sad that your leaving steemit, I just recently found you here and was like, finally someone sharing stuff I like to read about. I´m following you on instagram , enjoy freedom and free waves :)
Thank you so much for your kind words @leneg!
I'm overwhelmed by the feedback given and will definitely reconsider my decision after a couple of months. But now I need that break to calm down and recharge batteries.
Enjoy your time, too! See you on instagram :)
Yes, recharge and check in in a while, you are as you can see most welcome back! :) I signed up for steemit last august, and had a break for 8 months because I´m as you are very aware about my valuable time, and back then it din´t keep my interest. Right know with the changes here lately I don´t feel like writing a blogpost here. I rather spend my time chasing the global goals where I can contribute, that is of value for me :) But I´m not leaving steemit. Enjoy your time, see you on instagram!
A break is always a good idea. Sometimes we need to pause and free our minds to then come back and see things with different eyes.
My account is untouched and will be. So doors are not closed. The feedback on my goodbye post will definitely make me reconsider everything in a couple of months...;)
See you on Instagram in the meantime! Send me a message there if you don't mind to follow your account back :)
Trust your instincts:
Follow them to, or away from, wherever they direct you.
Good for you in your decision to say goodbye rather than simply ceasing to post and moving on... you have demonstrated very considerate compassion for your readers in your decision.
Take care, be well, and keep loving your life both on land and at sea 🌊
🙂👋
Thank you very much! I appreciate your lovely words.
That's totally my way to go.
Think, Feel, Act.
That formula never fails ;)
Big hug
😊
I hope that one day you decide to return when you feel the time is right.
Take care Marly.
Never say never.
Give me some months of surfing and then ask me again :-)
You are a courageous human and I applaud you for that...
I don't have to wish you luck, because you obviously know the secret to a life of happiness.
Kudos to you, Marly!!! :D
Thank you very much quietbear.
I've always tried to be consistent in my decisions.
A good decision is the one that makes you smile - this one does :-)
Have a good one!
:(
Your blogs have always been honest, interesting, and real. It's a shame to not be seeing your posts anymore, but good on you for realising what's best for you right now.
Best wishes, Asher.
Thank you Asher. I know. You've been here all the time and I really appreciate your outstanding support.
It's been a blast riding that steemit rollercoaster, but now I'm a bit tired of spending too much energy defending myself and fighting back. Some people are just here for the bad, and that won't change ever. I'm here for the good so these things just don't match...
Just coming out of the water, had my first surf after three weeks. Wham! What a feeling!
Have a great time and enjoy life
Had a swim today too, the ocean is a great and where you should be often.
Wishing you all the best in this life!
Absolutely.
Have a good one!
I'll reconsider my decision in a couple of months and probably I'll be swimming on steemit again some day.
See ya
I want you to be happy above all things, and I can see by the way that you have wrapped this up that this is what makes you happy. I have written you five times since I saw this and ended up cancelling my message each time, because I realize that my replies are very selfish. I simply don't want you to go because you are removing a bright light from this place by doing so.
I love you my kindred spirit, I know we will talk still. (Don't Go!) Okay, I guess I still had to say that.
Big hugs and kisses to you.
My dear @dreemit!
Only you would be reason enough to stay. I'm sorry having made this decision which is much more selfish than you asking me not to go.
But you even came to know me in person: I just wanna enjoy life and have a good time with nice people, nothing more and nothing less.
I can't permit that anybody affects me in a way these people have done. I worked hard for this blog and the fact that they tried to tear that down is enough to go before things get even worse.
I leave because I have a great life outside steemit's borders. That's the difference between these people and me. I am happy without the money ;-)
Love you to the moon and back!
Marly-
I don't want to be the one that convinces you to stay and then you are miserable for it. Life is too short to do anything that makes you unhappy.
But if you change your mind down the road, decide to do this only for fun and ignore rotten people, I know many will be happy. (Especially me!!)
Whatever you choose, I love you to the ends of space! To infinity and beyond!
You are so sweet honey!
Give me some months to catch waves, free my mind and recharge creative batteries. Right now I feel exhausted and not capable to spend any more time blogging here.
Let time heal it...;)
But you know I'm there and we can talk all the time on shitty Facebook haha
Love you more!!! :-D
H&K
I know where to find you, love - and I sincerely hope we stay connected. I love your energy and passion. And you know what? FUCK THE NAYSAYERS! It pisses me off that good people feel compelled to leave because of negative bullshit. I'm still hopeful. I still believe in the platform. Sometimes I really can't stand people....and I really love people in my own anti-social, awkward, dorky way.
My hope is that this is not a permanent good-bye. I hope you'll be back again and bringing sunshine and the beach to us; those who live vicariously through people with amazing positive energy. HUGS and I'll catch you on the outside. XOXOX
@merej99!!! You're the person that made me laugh most on this platform, do you even know that?!? ;-)
Gosh I will miss your humor badly!
But you know what: sometimes it's better to say goodbye when things are still alright instead of trying to fight and then end up completely exhausted.
I've always favored being the smart one that gives in first, especially when it comes to defending my happiness.
Yes you know where you'll find me and I know that, too! Ha! :)
You're amazing!
Biggest hug and see you