RE: Love out of Choice, Not Feeling
Beautiful post @tifaong. It's so very true. It is said it's the little things that matter most. It is the little things, but not like many think. With her just reaching out to touch him during a time when most other would have walked away, it is that reassurance that she's still there not matter what.
I wish life were black and white, it's not. I wish that relationships are easy, they aren't. They take dedication, persistence, tolerance and of course love. Not just a sexual love. The love for a long term relationship is so very different. It is extremely hard to explain, but when you meet someone else who has experienced it both side know exactly what you're talking about.
One of the things I remind my kids is to 'pick and choose your battles' What you think is important right now won't be in years to come, so why harm your mate, yourself or your relationship over something you truly don't have any control over?
(BTW thank you again for you post. I feel bad that I had missed it in all the mess that was going on. I GREATLY appreciate it.)
Hey @trsykele, thank you for taking your time to read and commented authentically. I really appreciate it.
Looks like we have a lot of similar view in terms of love and relationships :) I too believe that whether a relationship flourishes or corrodes depends on the small little things that happen every day. They do accumulate and will create happiness or cause harm.
Yea, I get you. If I were to be in a short-term relationship, I wouldn't put the same level of effort and emotion as long-term relationship. The mindset is different.
"Pick and choose your battles" huh? I'd rather say "What's the point of winning if it means hurting your partner?" :D
It's okayyy, I'm glad to hear from you XD
I think you know me well enough by now that honesty is what you get. I honestly love your writing and perspective is very much like mine, but different and the way you rephrased the question I put to my kids when they get upset with their partners. It is so much better suited to the situation it puts the dynamic that they need to try to understand.
I'm glad you found something to rekindle your spirit.
Yes, I know you well enough and I'd want to appreciate you every single time :)
I'm sure your kids understands what you're trying to tell them, or show them. You're a great mother @tryskele. Parenting is so important now and I feel that you're doing it the right way. Keep on going !!
Thank you @tryskele, I've been doing some self-healing to overcome my fears and things are progressing well. :)
Thank you so much :) It is so good to hear that things are getting better. As I am constantly reminded you have to take care of YOU because no one else will and you are the only YOU you have.
I know others that should say it won't but you make me proud! I am grateful for having you come into my life :D