RE: Are women who dress provocatively responsible for unwanted attention, or should men learn to control themselves? The @ecotrain question of the week
Here's the thing... many men are unable to control themselves.
there are doctors who could help with that...
Put a few men together and let a stunning woman walk past and see what happens! All eyes follow, and the guys will always mention it to each other afterwards in some kind of comment..
Women do that too...
As for the responsibility and dressing appropriately... Who determines what is appropriate? You said it your self that we are multicultural in big cities now. When I dress up in the morning, do I need to think about all the different men my clothes may offend or attract? Some men are attracted by sneakers, SNEAKERS!!! Should I stop wearing sneakers? Some men are attracted by tight clothes, ok so only baggy clothes from now on. No cleavage and no skirts, only pants and shirts to my neck. Fine.. Oh, wait. I dont think so :)
The problem is that we are all subjective and what you or your friend find attractive is not what some other man will like. How are we to please you all? I have an idea, screw pleasing you. Learn to control yourself or go see a doctor. Not you, you are lovely honey, but men who can not control themselves should seek professional help. I wonder if men are careful what they wear, they are not. I wonder why that is...
And as for the animal world... All around animal kingdom, males are seducing females, not the other way around. Males have pretty shiny feathers, horns and are showing off in front of ladies. Why is it different for humans is beyond me. We should put men in sparkles, I vote for that :D
Thank you for a wonderful read, you made some good points and it shows that you really tried to look at this from every angle. I respect your message that we should know and understand before we judge, that is always an important thing to know. Much love 💚
thanks for your comment..
when i wrote about men making comments about a pretty woman i realise women also do that too.. i have seen it.. But,.. the whole Vibe of it when men do it is quite different. They say the most gross things and really like too much!!
I was careful to word this question using the word provocative.. so to answer your question about whether you should have to think about whether you carry sneakers or not.. i would say not.. one thing i didnt mention in the post, which i think i could have.. is that its also about the way you carry yourself and present yourself.. if you are not being flirtatcious and really not dressed up to impress then that is a different thing.. women shouldn't, in theory, have to overthink this... but in practice.. we have to just realise how things work.. also it all depends on the person and what they can tollerate and deal with. Some women can just brush off some stupid guy, whereas another may get quite upset.. so generalising isnt really fair to this answer..
p.s id wear eye glitter <3