Control Dramas & The Struggle For Power

Keep one important thing in mind when your energy is in decline because those moments you are most vulnarable. 

Look around and protect yourself immediately from all those "energy vampires". 

Don't let anybody drag you down, down and more down.

Stop, relax and know that not all problems are yours to fix. Gain distance that you can handle the situation better than the last time when you found yourself being robbed of your precious power, ending up with zero for yourself.

 

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How to manage disruptive and attention seeking behaviour? 

It happened too many times that I was facing a lot of nonsense and once again, I am stuck in a few disturbed interactions with obvioulsy "weak" people, who are playing a power game, mostly subconsciously because maybe they might not even realise what " downers" they actually are. 

I am lucky enough that I seem to recognize the first signs to pull myself out of upcoming drama thunder storms very quickly. 

 

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I am finally very well aware off such manipulative moves, trying to gain power over me. The recognition of such games allows us to break out and not get caught in a vicious cycle. Be aware of people's un-conscious strategy to steal from you. 

 

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Attempts to control who ? You! So, what is the need to do so, why do they feel it is necessary?

Probably there will be the big "I am sorry" line right after. 

Don't let it happen and try to understand their behaviour but only if you got time for. I don't!

I remembered a very exciting book I read many years ago "The Celestine Prophecy", mentioning about the four control dramas. So, I started researching about James Redfield’s theory , defining four ways that people are in relationship with one another. 

What is a control drama? 

All humans, because of their upbringing, tend toward one of the four “control dramas”: Intimidators steal energy from others by threat. Interrogators steal it by judging and questioning. Aloof  people attract attention and energy to themselves by acting reserved or withdrawing. Poor me Drama! We get our way with others by making them pay attention to us and then elicit a certain reaction from them to make ourselves feel fulfilled. - Source 

Don't we all know those kind of people?

The positive feelings gained, when you are exposed to a variety of people, are won at the expense of the other and this causes major imbalance and massive silly dramas in our interpersonal relationships. 

Most of us have a dominant control drama in which we engage in automatically, without even realizing what we are doing and to what extent and expense. Your need to defend and engage in defensive responses with someone means you are caught in such drama and you will thus, “react.” When you start to become aware of your dominant control drama and can recognize it in action, you can start to hone it and make better choices in your responses to others. - Daily Ohm

Awareness and disconnectiong from delicate situations will help to change because they will not attract nor defeat you and it will lead to your own and even their peace. People feel so defensive when messages of guilt, evaluation, hidden agendas, superiority, certainty as well as lack of emotions are present and too many excuses are being made. 

Refuse to get engaged in this kind of communication and toxic moments. 

“Make sure to back up for a minute or even days, months or forever! 

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PS: A bit off the topic but describing those kind of energy robbing people I was talking about. 

The amazing article I read this morning "A New Kind of Toxic " by @kyriacos inspired me today, thinking of  "for-me-dangerous" people in my life, less every day!

He wrote: "It often slips our mind how messed up life is for many people on this earth. We lose touch with reality because we stare our screen for so long — everything becomes entertainment with an expiration date. Our reactions to these events have been reduced to a few clicks of a mouse or some paragraphs of text. There is nothing more toxic to the human existence other than the distortion of reality for the sake of personal distinguishment. There is nothing more toxic than rejecting those who see things how they are in an effort to relinquish one's bullshit. Realism is not toxic. Living in a privileged bubble that jerks inside an echo chamber is.

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My reply : "I live in my cocoon with crystal white walls ( hehee I really don’t ) and when I look outside I see stinky, fake “bastards” and can’t breath . What to do? Every time I act “negative”, like a normal person would feel once in a while and scream or cry, some instagram and facebook people don’t “like” me, think I am not “nice enough”. I was recently called a bully for posting "NamasteBitches" saying that I am not impressed, it’s not that cool to use this powerful word "NAMASTE" without knowing what it really means. I was told that I am “much better than that”, than sending passive aggressive messages to my so called private “followers”. So, I’m out of the trend to be your “new toxic” then. Should I cry now?

Yours @mammasitta