Hello friend, I think we are in the same wave, fewer people toxic in my life every day, fewer spiritual vampires. Tolle mentions in his book "The Power of Now" that the incongratulaty can take shape of .... the need for drama in his loving relationship ... Catch at the moment you wake up from your dormant state. You have to get rid of all that in life and be happy.

I recommend that book if you don't know it yet. I loved your post. A hug.