Not so merry xmess
Happy celebrations to you all for whatever reason you choose in the silly season.
But this time of year is not so jolly for everyone.
Tomorrow will be the 23rd of December and for many this is leading into time off work and party mode with friends and loved ones. It's not the same for us all. On this date 2006 my brother died. He crashed a car burned to death in a single car accident on his way to work. This time of year is a constant reminder for me of him not being here when he was the only blood family I was ever close too.
While people like me in this situation who have this time of year as a constant reminder. We may be a bit more quiet than usual, not as interactive or as interested as the rest. We don't care to rain on anyone else's parade just because it is a time of year we struggle a bit more than most. Or parents who can't see their children on this day. Many other reasons that this time of year is not so good for everyone.
It can be a real struggle.
While these people may not even tell you, they just are not as interested as most.
Please leave them be and just enjoy yourself around others, as we won't interfere with your party bring you down.
Have a heart and just leave these people be however they manage to be comfortable and get through this period.
No need to tell them they are a kill joy coz they just don't got that bullshit xmess spirit thing goin on. They already know they are down and mostly trying to blend in the back ground knowing it will pass.
This is not the picture of his car. It was burnt and I just don't feel like taking another look at them to put up for all to see. Hard enough to write this.
Was a long time ago people. Just written as a reminder that some suffer this time of year. Not as hard on me these days but I remember when it was.
The old saying.
Just go easy on people you never really know just what they are going through.
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While im at it. Please be safe on the roads all year round.
Thank you for the reminder about the 'happy holidays shit' ... I'm going to share so others may read your words. So often we want to include everyone in the 'cheer'.... :'( ;'(
It's just like any other day. People have babies, people die. It's not the same for everyone. Lots of people are extra depressed on the so called special days in a year. Certain days are built up in people's minds and they have high expectations of them and when they fall short of expectations. That's when problems arise.
Without great expectations one will suffer no great losses. If a day ends in a y. It is the same as every other day.
Expect nothing. After that everything is a gift.
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother. Hugs to you friend. 💗
Peace! My friend. ❤️
Well said and I hear you. You never really know about anyone unless you have walked a mile in their shoes. I understand and appreciate your story. The big banging and the hooplah over this season has long left my soul. Each passing year brings another tragedy or loss of some kind. I search and eek out peace and solitude in every aspect of everyday. I envelope myself with Gratitude for what I do have and value. Blessing to you my Aussie. May peace find you. xx
Yes, I compreh that well. I spend my life looking for peace in mu solitude. Seems to be the only place I truly find it.
I fully understand how hard this time of year is for so many. Whatever the reason, many suffer instead of enjoy. So Blessings to you my friend. And may your pain get less as the years pass.
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Not hard like it use to be. It has given me a sense of compassion for others. I never would have know if I had not experienced it myself. It's why I write this.
The depth of your loss is certainly not covered in this observation, @tony-marshall. This anniversary would be a sad one for you regardless.
No matter the situation it can feel lonely if not with friends and/or family in this season and many feels it emotionally.
My first official Christmas away from home was in Morocco. It was just another day, being a predominately Muslim country. The next year's Christmas was spent in Spain. With everyone celebrating around me it brought on a bad case of homesick. Beware of cultural brain wiring. 😎
It is more difficult when around everyone celebrating. I had to deal with it a lot when I was young boy and stayed that way. I was comfortable with it for many years to,l this accident happened. Now it's just a constant yearly reminder. It's been a while now and last few years I've made my peace with it. I still know but doesn't effect me as harshly as it once did.
Happy New Year, Brother! ✌
I wish u all the best
Hugs and much love to you. Thank you for the reminder to be gentle with others this season. Xo
Walk softly on the earth and always carry a big stick just in case you need it.
I wish you the best for you and all your surrounds. ❤️Peace my friend.
I understand you, dear.
Thank you. These people are not the gringe trying to spoil it for others. It's just a time when many struggle and I feel for those people.
Big hug to you friend. I also lost my brother in an accident in 2007. 10 years plus...still its a painful memory. Saw him at the hospital lifeless... During this celebration, all I could do is give a prayer for his soul to rest in peace...
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We all experience loss in our lives. Can be hard at the best of times. I hope you're ok surrounded with loved ones.