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RE: My Fairy World – Greetings from The Lands of Lala!
You are a beautiful human being.
It is very tragic and stupid that we, people, mostly psychologically destroy and violate our children from day 1 (because we are programmed to do so) instead of nurturing them and letting them grow free and true to themselves.
I have a 6 year old daughter, and I always have to watch out for my own problems and issues (in order to not project them in her). It is the hardest task. To be a good parent to me means first of all that we just have to LET OUR CHILDREN BE (while keeping them safe from obviously dangerous things of course... like burning a house down, or running amidst cars, or playing computer games 24/7). Let them be. Not treat them like toys or subhumans.
Welcome to the club of cool parents!
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Thank you @araska-dragonkey! I know we are. Beautiful and turning even more beautiful each day. As long as we keep on reflecting ourselves. Like you obviously do. I feel the very same about parenting and I am already in the phase where I am being rewarded for the way I let her be. She's 16 years now and she voluntarily spends a lot of time with me. Other teens her age do all they can to avoid their parents. But she and her friends love to hang with me and accept me as a human being rather than having some forced kind of "respect" as they feel for lots of other adults. A few days ago, we were speaking on the phone for hours and when I said I need to hang up she resisted. I laughed and said: "You're a teenager. I am your mother. You don't want to hang up?" And she said: "That's different. You're a super cool mother. Nobody would hang up on you." I had the feeling of a second heart growing inside my chest. I almost exploded with joy. :) This pleasure is what we get back. And people who don't give this little extra effort will never have this huge extra gift. Thanks for the encouragement!
That is great! I’ll admit I am very scared of my daughter’s teenage phase... but like you said, it all depends on us.
“Forced kind of respect”
Thank you for this perfect phrase, I know some people I will definitely use it on! )) Because their “methods” of communication with my kid drive me nuts.
I know, right? So good talking to you. Every time. :) I know exactly what you mean. But soon your child will be old enough to be as knowing as we are and they are all going to regret how they treated your kid. The echo is coming. :) Slowly but steady …