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RE: Why I'm Powering Down (For a Few Times)-Finally Found My Missing Friend
While I don't think your sending her money is necessarily helping things, I know you mean well.
I have a friend who is socially isolated and has been gradually disappearing from my life. I know having more friends and company would do wonders for her, but I'm unable to be that person due to time and distance constraints.
It's hard, and painful, feeling responsible for someone who you know you're losing to substance abuse and mental health issues. I can't imagine how difficult it must be from the other person's perspective.
Thanks for sharing your experiences.
Cheers. You might wanna reach out to your friend, even if you don't have time, just a coffee or a small chat can do wonders for a person sometimes. When people fade like that, sometimes we don't understand, but it can be a sign of a deeper issue (perhaps not). Sometimes when people suffer trauma or abuse the become unable to resolve their experience and unable to relate to others who do not recognize such abuse or trauma on a surface level. This creates an unavoidable disconnect for them.
In regard to money, it certainly doesn't help to throw a bunch of money at an addict. But to give small amounts of regular support in the form of money can give, especially a woman, little bits of control over her situation. It keeps her in contact and connected with someone that actually cares and doesn't ask for anything in return.
Thanks for the comment.