Dad's Hardness In Educating, There Is Something Beautiful In It
In every relationship there are things that you like and dislike, also in family life. Disliking a foolish brother, that view is different from the mother, to the displeasure of a difficult father's way of teaching. Especially the latter, sometimes this makes our relationship with the father is not good, and keep away.
Father is indeed a fighter for the family. Father is also the figure of the most important person after the mother. Although my father rarely takes care of us since childhood, but father always pay attention to his son. When we're small, dad always thinks what his son wants to be fulfilled. As a child, we ask to buy toys, sometimes our father wants to buy the toy so that his son is happy. Sometimes father also thinks while working and then on the road to see the toys he imagined, if buying a toy that maybe his son will be happy. That is the love of a father to his son, though his son has not asked, but a father has given anything for his son to look happy.
Father also protects us indefinitely. For example, when we want to play the game, our father is always angry and acts hard on his son. That's not because the father intends to hurt his son's feelings, but with that violence keeping his son away from danger, his son also thinks more firmly. Father is also sometimes feared by his children because of the firmness and violence aya in educating.
Little attention from the father, sometimes we can not feel it, but miss each other. When we go to school father, father always reminded that before leaving school we have breakfast first. We have to discipline the time at breakfast, no time because the clock is approaching when the lesson begins. Sometimes we come home from school, dad scolded us. Father's desire that we do not get sick and starve during teaching and learning activities, because hunger does not focus on the lessons.
Dad is also a livelihood for his family. Dad's responsibility to family is very important. A father is always trying to make a living to meet the needs of his family, so the family is always happy. If the family happy of course my father also happy to see happiness in his family. Sometimes dad gets paid after work to buy food choices for his family. When dad has a little money, but dad happy if his family happy.
It can not be denied that on some occasions you have been scolded with a high note, or punished for minor mistakes, even for boys sometimes there is physical contact. These difficult ways often make you think that you do not deserve this kind of education. Well for those who think like that, try to learn more. Believe it all is a form of love for you, so you become a good person and useful later.
How to educate a father is often compared to the way the mother, may feel softer, caring and obviously very considerate. But comparing the way fathers with mothers is not right, because it has different qualities between men and women. Because he wanted his father to educate. No dad intends to harm his own son. Of course not, unless they're crazy. In educating, the father will have good intentions for the child. Yet in a way that is less fun, but you need to believe that what they do is all based on your kindness later. And if you look further, the father is not always hard in mendidikmu, all depending on the good he wants to teach.
Hard here is not always a physical contact, but also a discipline. Either it cuts an allowance, or rules to not date. Similarly, when you make a mistake and eventually he was disappointed, surely the father scolded you. But usually the father's anger is based on how bad your mistakes are. In addition to growing you into a disciplined child, a difficult way is also meant for you to be strong and strong. Maybe after college and life are monitored, you will understand how difficult life is without direct protection from mom or dad at home.
If you are still disappointed with the father's hard treatment in mendidikmu and doubt your father loves you. Try to recall what you have done so far to make you happy. Do you remember the father who taught you to ride when you were a kid? Dad will fend for your school fees to be met, collect money everywhere to keep the kitchen stable and your stomach fully charged, fulfilling your desire to have new toys or clothes.
If you feel that the way the father is relevant to you because you are an adult, all you can do is forgive your father if there are acts you do not like. Forgive me, because of course he has no intention of hurting you. Then open a dialog with him about how to educate him. Choose a time and a good way of explanation, your father must understand.
The relationship of father and son is not as simple as the relationship between mother and child. But it is not a reason to hold a grudge against him because of your disagreement with how to educate him hard. You have to understand that there is a good reason behind it, not once you grow into a strong and tough person. You should know that, in addition to mother, the greatest love given to you comes from the father.
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reasonable, because the way the parents teach it varies according to the child's psychology. so do not carelessly teach children especially with violence. there are still many soft ways.