Keeping Your Spouse

kelvino (46)in #writing • 7 years ago (edited)

Many wonderful and envied relationships and marriages are often being compromised every now and then. Many at times, the reasons why this happens is as a result of negligence, pride and arrogance of either or both spouse.

Most couples often neglect the little things that matters a lot in keeping their relationship healthy. Those little things like; giving your spouse sincere compliments every now and then, showing your spouse how much they mean to you, how lucky you are to have them, and so much more. We often overlook all those little things that we did at first in other to win our spouse’s heart. We become overconfidence and we no longer see the need to do all those things any longer because we’re already dating or probably married to our spouse. But we tend to forget one important thing; which is the fact that our spouse did actually came to like and fall in love with us because of those little care and concern we displayed from the onset.

Know that if you don’t treat them special anymore, people outside will do that for you, and with time they will begin to have thoughts and even wonder if you really loved them like you claimed, and from such insinuations, compromise will begin to set into your relationship.

To cut the long story short, I will be sharing with you all some useful tip on keeping your spouse.

Never shout at your spouse when you are talking to them, it really hurt them a lot.
Do not in any circumstance speak evil of your spouse to anyone, because your spouse will definitely become what you paint them as.
On no account should you compare your spouse to another man or woman. Because if the other man or woman was good for you, God would have given them to you instead of your spouse.
Be gentle and accommodating to your spouse. They have sacrificed so much to be with you. It hurts them so much when you’re hash and irritating.
As human, almost everyone have one or few things they’ve probably done and are not proud of sharing them with others. Just like the saying goes;
“no matter how small, everyone has a skeleton in there cupboard”.
But no matter how hard it might seem, try as much as possible not to hide anything from your spouse. Because by virtue of your marriage, you are now one and let there be no secrets between you two. Keeping secrets and not opening up to your spouse is one of the most dangerous factors that can cause compromise to your marriage.
Never cease to remind your wife how much you love her all the days of your life. Women are never tired of hearing that. Likewise the ladies, you should do the same to your man too.
No matter the situation your relationship or marriage is facing, do no try to expose your spouse's weakness, because you will be exposing yourself too. Instead, tell them their weakness and help them overcome it. Be a shield around your spouse, and not an arrow in their heart.
Make out time to play and spend quality time with your spouse, enjoy their company while you are alive. Because when you’re dead, he/she is the only one who must be by your grave hurting. But your friends might be too busy to attend your funeral.
It is said that;“the fastest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”. Ladies ensure that your husband gets to eat the food that you prepared personally and not eat outside often. And for the guys, we know that not all women cook the same way, but appreciate her effort in preparing the meal for the family. I assure you that, seeing how appreciative you are towards her effort, even if she’s a bad cook, she’ll definitely want to do better next time.
Under no circumstance should you place your siblings before your wife, she’s the one with you, and must come first before your family. Same goes to the ladies.
Irrespective of your earning, never manipulate your spouse with your money. This warning is especially to the ladies.
On no circumstance should you shout or try to make a public correction on your spouse, or in front of your kids. Even when she’s wrong, try as much as possible to act like you support her, then correct her in the privacy of your home.
Appreciate your wife for taking care of the kids and your home, because she’s the pillar on which your home stands.