To be honest, I think an approach as to how we can discipline kids varies on a case to case basis. I've met people who we're disciplined in such a way that's even considered "abuse" to some, but turned out to be an ideal community member. While some, who grew up with a very understanding parent, turned out to be someone who barely respects anyone.

Since everyone's love language differs, I think whats important is to really get to know a child and what kind of method would work best for him and her. Understanding and patience, too. Plus all fingers and toes crossed to hope for the best. Haha.