I think it is the most hurtful for both parties. Now that man might think that he wants or needs for this to happen, but it clouds our judgement as men. I have been in both situations and truly waiting and learning each other for whatever the period might be makes the whole experience of love and intimacy far more intense and meaningful . Not saying that it will mean that doing this will guarantee happiness, but it it will give everyone involved a greater understanding of what they are getting into before that are already inside.