women from all developed countries at one point in history had to deal with this or similar issues. Not easy being a single, successful woman in China for this generation. Hopefully the next generation will be more on board. I'm a Canadian man living in China for almost 4 years. I had girlfriend here who fit this description to the T. She was born 1982 and I'm 1980. She often said to me she couldn't have a Chinese bf because she will have to quit her job, which she loved and paid more than most men make.

A point i didn't pick up on if you wrote it. She also said

"I make too much money to marry a Chinese man. But the Chinese men who make more already have wife and 'children'. " (note the plural).

Her job did get in the way a lot. She was often abroad or out of city with work. She chose work over a relationship, which is normal in the west I think.