On Transgender parenting
"She gave birth, she breast fed and now she wants her son to see her like a man.
Sabastion Sparks cuddling her son.
Like many new transgender-dads, Sabastion Sparks knew parenting would come with serious challenges but most new dads didn't give birth to their children and they didn't breastfeed them. They simply went for adoption.
I think it sounds ridiculous,She gave birth and breastfed him,how can he ever see her as a man considering how science and nature works.If she wanted to be a man why would she get pregnant and breastfeed?? These are all things that women do, not men. Why would she not adopt one. Because there's usually a connection between the mother and the child how would she be able to convince him.I'm ranting this way because I really care about the child's mental health. She will always be a she, nothing in her DNA changed. You can’t turn a lemon into an orange .
I Know so many people are gonna come at me for this or say Whoa,"why are you hating?" "What happened to "Live and let live"?" yea I totally agree but am more concerned about the childs upbringing because it is not an easy task. Both "husband and wife" have important roles to play in the home front so as to raise good children that will be useful to the family and society at large. I have never seen where "husband and husband" works. Parenting involves promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. It is also the duty of parents to bring up their children in an atmosphere of peace, self confidence and in an environment free of fear,threat or abuse. He is likely to face serious humiliation as he grows up considering the kind of society we have found our selves.
So let's imagine the height of trauma this kid is going to face in the nearest future, Right from when he starts mingling with other children from the neighborhood to when he graduates from college,I mean if he ever get a chance to reach that height. while other kids are busy talking about their mum and dad and how perfect that sounds he begins to sober like he already feels he doesn't belong to the society,it could lead to depression knowing his life is different from the other kids.
Criticisms are welcome,Advice and corrections are highly recommended as regards this topic.
Wow - a rant indeed. I cannot say I totally agree, nor do I totally disagree. Talk about sitting on the fence. Well no. As a Christian my belief is that man is man and woman is woman for a reason. As a lover of all things science I believe male is male and female is female for a reason. However, I TOTALLY get it when there's a genetic mix up somewhere. I have many transgender, gay and lesbian friends and I would not preach to them or expect them to be any other way as I expect that kind of respect from them. That said - I completely understand your concern for the welfare of the child. I have 3 stepchildren raised by a woman who birthed them then decided she preferred relationships with women. The children did indeed suffer at the hands of bullies and bigots and not just children they schooled with. Two of three grew up with additional issues of identity and sexuality, all are socially awkward, not sure where they fit in. Even as adults they don't know, and adults are more forgiving of these quirks and variations.
For a boy to be born of a mother who then becomes his father is like throwing a lamb to lions. Adults may treat him with respect but as he is growing and being nurtured his peers will be relentless in making sure he knows he is different. This may make him strong, come out fighting or weak and hide, but it will affect him in a way that will bite him. I guess without knowing the parent's strength of personality it's difficult to say how badly he will be affected but he will be.
In effect his mother has taken a perfectly ordinary boy (I presume) and made him a schoolyard freak and he will have to deal with that. Children are the cruellest of all, especially when someone is different for reasons they don't yet understand.
I wish them well and hope that he has the strength to survive without too much scarring.
Wow,thank you so much for your contribution.
So from your own point of view raising this child to be normal is possible only that he cannot totally escape abuse.
Sorry my English is bad,I hope to improve.
It's not ideal obviously but to be fair there are many children raised in "normal" families who are screwed up one way or another. I cannot for the life of me see why a person would do what this one has but that's an opinion. It's not a judgement. The child will be facing issues, and one could only hope that now that the mother has changed gender that she/he is happy in themselves as that will be of the most importance. An insecure parent is bad enough but one who has no idea who they are is not the best parent regardless of what they do or don't do. I prefer it to be the way (to me) nature intends but this is a crazy world and there are good and bad people everywhere. The biggest issue here will definitely be the school peers. Children are by nature extremely prejudice even when their parents guide them not to be. I know that from experience many times having raised a total of 7 children and was one myself once too (LOL). So yeah, the upshot is, the child's personality plus the parents confidence and understanding will get them through (or not) but not without some extra and possibly unnecessary bumps and bruises.
Alright, thanks.Am enlightened.
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