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That moment when you can say anything about the matters on ground but it is very hard for you to say something good out of your mouth to compensate the matter, all you can say is to just put more pepper in the matter but to say something good is very hard. Although that is what happens most times, it is really easy to talk negative or spoil things than talk positively or talk repair things...

It is very easy to moan, to complain, to criticize. It is much harder to always find something nice to say about a situation or a person. But think of it now as a huge challenge. Saying something nice is hard because our natural inclination is to moan. If someone asks how the weekend camping went, it’s easier to start on the bad weather and the problems with the campsite and the annoying behavior of the people in the next-door trailer, than it is the joy of being with people you wanted to be with and in a fantastic setting. When a friend asks how you’re getting on with your boss, the things they do that really annoy you usually spring to mind before the upsides.

No matter how horrid someone is, there is always something about him that is good. Your job is to find that good bit and highlight it, speak about it, draw attention to it. Same with a situation that seems troublesome. I remember reading once of someone who was on the Metro in Paris during a major strike. It was chaos, and people were shoving and pushing. It was pretty horrendous. There was a woman with a small child there, and it could have been quite scary. She bent down to the child and said quite brightly, “This, my dear, is what they call an adventure.” It has become a pet phrase of mine in times of crisis and trouble.

When asked your opinion of someone, something, somewhere, you need to find something good to say, something flattering and positive. There is ample evidence that being positive has many benefits, but the most noticeable is that people will gravitate toward you and not even know why. That positive air about you is attractive. People like being around those who are upbeat, positive, happy, and confident. We need to bite our tongue more and say good things more often.

Obviously, if you are only going to say good things, then this cuts out back-biting, gossiping, mouthing off, telling tales, being rude about people, and complaining (you are allowed to point out defects or problems but in a constructive way). And that could leave you with a big gap to fill.

Before opening your mouth, try just for a week to find something good to say. It’s one of those things that will amaze you by how it improves your life, but don’t take my word for it, just try it. And if all else fails, and you really can’t think of anything positive to say at all, then don’t say anything. At all.

If You Can’t Say Anything Nice, Don’t Say Anything at All because it is not all the time that you will want to be heard.

thanks and keep your words to yourself.