You have to do what is right for you! The military can destroy families. People have no idea until you have lived it. That does not mean it is a bad job, you just have to ask yourself if the lifestyle is right for you.
I can only imagine the career counselor and Chief were saying...13 years and a quality sailor leaving it all behind. It's a tough jump to make at that point in a career.
Exactly right-not a bad job, but it was not the lifestyle for me and my family. Grateful for the opportunity to serve though!