How to Save Your Relationships by Embracing a Sense of Pessimism...
Hi, dear Steemians!
Pessimism? How is that even possible? You may be wondering if you read that title correctly. Well, you did.
In this article, we are going to talk about our relationships, especially romantic acquaintances and how they are important in shaping our future. Our idea of how romantic relationships should be is an important aspect of our adult life.
How well we understand our romantic side is an important determining factor of how well we do in our social life.
There is a wrong idea in our culture that embraces the romantic fantasy of finding the ‘one’ true love that is a perfect match for you. A person who is a hundred percent compatible with your personality, thoughts, and ideals.
Our society, especially our culture, desperately struggles to prove that there is a such a person for everyone in this world, and if we look carefully enough or tolerate the length of the journey, we are eventually going to find that person.
This obviously leads to a problematic way of thinking which will inevitably leave you alone for the most part of your early adulthood, because you are searching for your ‘soulmate’ and cannot find contentment with other people.
People who are even trying to get your attention.
First of all, there is no perfect human being. The idea of a perfect soulmate is contradictory in itself, as we are all blended with flaws and shortcomings.
Love is often a mutual respect and understanding shared between two human souls. To ruin that with the idea that someone should have certain qualifications to meet your standards is as absurd as it is improbable.
You could come to this mutual respect and understanding with someone you like. You may not like everything about them, but you enjoy their company and love certain aspects of their character.
You may even start to fall for their flaws, because you know that these flaws are what makes them truly unique and special.
Some of our cultural and artistic movements want you to think otherwise.
They want you to save yourself for a ‘soulmate’ that may or may not arrive. Evolution, the whole of nature, the laws of society, and every logical assessment of our life can renounce this dangerous idea with imperial evidence.
That is why, a certain optimism and wishful thinking about love should be discouraged. By embracing the pessimism and denying the existence of a soulmate, we could all find and cherish love in the most honest and candid way.
Because love is not manufactured in a company. Our relationships are founded on a mutual understanding and a sense of belonging in the company of those we like.
Someone you already know and adore can be a good person to build the foundations of a romantic relationship with.
Do not waste your opportunity for peace and emotional satisfaction because of your fallacious perfectionism and your deluded idea of a grand romantic tale.
A BIG HUG!
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Dear @chbartist
The importance of relationships can be understood by the same person who is connected to family or society and has the ability to carry responsibilities. Such people save the relationship from scattering. If we take the example of the head of a small unit family who strive to keep the family happy while facing every circumstance. In fact, he keeps himself in trouble to save the relationship. These things also apply to a family, society and country. Pleasure of pleasure is always followed by sadness, so enjoy every situation. Suffering and happiness are two aspects of life.
Thank you for making strong community
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Perfection can never be a requirement in these types of things as perfection would never lead to betterment and improvement. While we should shrive for perfection, we cannot expect it to occur in order to move forward. Seek the things we can improve to build a better example instead.
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This is the beauty and importance of knowing and understanding the different temperaments, personalities, and intelligence of people.
No one is perfect. Everyone has a unique ability that is deemed weakness or strength by others. Accepting other's personality and capability will give you the perspective of working with him/her, not changing him/her.
Sometimes we want to change others, but in reality were the one who needs to change.
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Sir you are saying very nice subject here about save relationship I think
Pesslmlsm is the belief that bad thing are going to happen. thanks for sharing your thought I like .
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Mutual understanding+mutual understanding=Perfect soulmate.
Because there is no perfect human being.
Great article @chbartist on the subject of the relationship.
@chbartist, When it comes to Relationships then we have to bring out our inner understanding because relationships need balance and that balance comes from the understanding. Every individual is unique, so balance is vital. Stay blessed.
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Since nobody's perfect in the world so we should accept the person without any conditions. If we keep looking for the perfect person then we may get disappointed after certain point of time. Small small things in another person can be ignored and that is the secret for the happy life. Relationship is successful when we have happy and peaceful life but maintain that we must ignore things which we don't like about our partner. This is the way of happy relationship.
Thanks @chbartist for the nice post
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Perfection is something that is so desired yet so difficult to achieve. For me striving at excellence is far more easier and profitable compared to perfection. The fact that we are human makes perfection even more difficult to attain. But then, these flaws make life even more interesting, flaws give rise to excellence.
In relationships, I just believe you create what you want to see. You want a rich spouse, then encourage him or her to work harder and more creatively, support him or her, rather than making huge demands that make your partner feel inadequate. You don't want a lousy spouse, then encourage him or her to choose and count his or her words carefully before saying them out. Real Relationships require a great deal of work to raise and maintain. Relationships that last for life never started with perfection, rather they thrived on tolerating and managing flaws that could not be corrected.
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Yes, it is very necessary to have a devoted devotion to each other, along with that there is a very important role of faith, because the foundation becomes weak without faith.
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